The other morning, went to say something to dh, who was checking his phone at the time. I noticed that the text message had a cruse word on it, although couldn't read the whole message from where I was standing. I asked to look at the message, thinking it was a drunken text from the previous night. Dh actually turned away, at which point i said, 'if it's innocent, then let me see''. He again hid his,phone, and said 'don't worry, I'm not having an affair'.
I left it at that. What concerns me is not the crude word - I get that men have banter (however wrong), but that he tried to hide his phone. Although it's a work phone, I'm not restricted from it, know the password and was using for photos at the weekend.
When he was in the bath, I had a good search on his phone, and couldn't find the message (although I'm not smart phone savvy).
Not sure what to do next. Watch and wait? Just write it off as a bit of lads banter which he was embaressed about? Confront?
So not to drip feed, a couple of weeks back, saw a gambling page on dh's iPad. Went through history to see if it were a one off and found a link to a local find-sex site. Decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, thinking it was a pop up advert (and there's been no suspicious trips out, secret phone calls etc.). The gambling site I realised is a pop up, as it contains numbers which are in dh's new job tel no.
Sorry for long post. It feels good to write it all down.