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Getting back the professionalism?

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Tenshidarkangel · 19/07/2017 10:44

Morning you beautiful nest of vipers.

Looking for some advice. I am single. Have been since January and in my (stupid) quest for a new man I have fallen for the worst possible choice ever. A colleague.

He works on a different site. We end up talking on the phone a lot due to mine and his role.

Anyway, hes lovely. We get on really well, have a laugh, flirt ect. He knows I like him (I've told him) and I get the impression it's a two way thing. He sends me kisses on the end of emails (When asked if they were a typo, he rang and told me they were big ones), If I sound off he checks up on me, rings me to wind me up ect and it's to the point our mutual collegues have picked up on it and commented on it.

So here's the killer. He has a very attractive girlfriend.

I have tried to keep a distance but it's very difficult when he's so brazenly flirting. Normally I would just cut all contact and walk away. Sadly, this isn't an option because we work together (Mental note - this is why we don't fall for colleagues!) and now I'm on a fine line trying not to be an utter twat but keeping the professional line - bloody difficult as I'm naturally friendly and upbeat.

How do I get the distance without being an utter arse? I've never had a crush on a colleague. In fact its very rare I become a girly, preteen mess over anyone... So literally have no clue...

Bollocks to it all.

(Thank you in advance)

OP posts:
loveyoutothemoon · 19/07/2017 11:16

You have got the distance, he works on another site! So you've no excuse. You need to be just professional from now on. Stop flirting and go for someone single, it's simple.

How old are you? You sound very young.

Dappledsunlight · 19/07/2017 11:39

Unsure what solution you're looking for. Seems simple. Refrain from any hint at flirting. Keep all contact ultra professional and he'll get the message. If he tries to challenge you on it, confront him with the fact that he has a gf. A bit of harmless flirting and banter is part of the pleasures of life but if you've fallen for this guy you need to reign it in and likewise for him.

Aperolspritzer123 · 19/07/2017 11:56

How did you get to the stage where you told him you liked him??

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