After you've met OLD...

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Apologise if theirs already a place for this.

How's it going?

I've been with the man I met for 3 months. All still amazing and I'm very happy. He seems very well balanced and a very nice person all round..I fancy him and we've spent a fair bit of time together which is good. However last night I was really fed up due to a family issue. It wasn't him and I think anyone would have wound me up last night but..

I got to his and he seemed really tired..I know he'd stayed up the night before as I'd gone to bed early and he'd messaged saying it was early..in the end I suggested I left as someone yawning all the time isn't really great! He's also asked lots to meet my dd (who is grown up) which we said about for the weekend. When I told him she was free Friday he told me he was busy on a works do (will be the 1st fri we've not seen each other since we met) he asked me to stay at his while he was out so I'd be there when he got back.

Anyway I came home totally fed up..it wasn't him but do worry he seems so tired and in the beginning i didn't seem to notice?!
Anyway I know it's me as he's lovely and apologised and I'm just being mardy!

How are you all getting along?!

I think generally, when you meet someone, you get on with, you can be in a bubble for the first couple of years, at the very least. Eventually it Pops and you can step back & look objectively at what you have & who you're dating.
Try to remove yourself from the bubble now & from what you've said, you'll see he's doing nothing wrong.

Agreed thanks! It was def me last night, I was so down, I knew I wasn't going to see him for a few days though otherwise wouldn't have gone. He's great I just need to snap out of what I have going on.

I met my DP online just over two and a half years ago and we get married next week so its going pretty well 😊 I think three months in is a bit early if I'm honest to be showing your testy side. I think we owe our partners the same treatment we show our friends , that's been the formula for success for me this time to be honest. So if I was grumpy would I be nice to my friends still? If yes, then be nice man to your man. Respect your partner and make allowances for him as you would your mates and it'll not go far wrong.

I met my husband online march 2015 and we got married beginning of July. I had given up looking as I kept meeting people who I just didn't have that connection with.

Met my husband OLD in Jan 2011. Married in June 2014, DD arrived Sept 2016. Going pretty well

I think 3 months is probably about when the sparkly newness starts to wear off if you see each other a lot, whereas before he might have been powering through tiredness, you can't maintain that forever.

I'm fairly happy with boring yawny normality, but if you aren't you need both put they effort in to keep the excitement going. Honestly discussing expectations is always a good thing.

I've just met someone and he is lovely. However, due to past relationships and being cheated on, emotionally abused etc etc I find I am looking for problems.....but there really aren't any! And I go up and down in my thoughts and feelings as the month goes on. It annoys me!

What sites did you all use? In a city area as I find them all pretty crap here.

Les agreed and I haven't been like that at all so must remember what you say is a good point. He's great and I want to hang onto him. He's very positive about us which I like but like you say debbs it's hard to not look for issues at times.
Glad you've all worked out..I'm
Quite happy with normality tbh, life's been a rollercoaster so peace and tiredness are fine!!

I met my dp online just over 4 years ago. We now have a 18 month old and a newborn (plus my 7yo dd1) and we're getting married soon. So it's going pretty well really!

I met my ex fiance on POF too. We were together 4 years and 2 children. We moved far too fast though and I discovered lots of issues along the way. Hence being paranoid now!

The only thing I'd have an issue with here is you having to spend the evening at his so you can be there when he gets back. Does he like to have you waiting around for him?

Tony that all sounds good!
Debbs who too fast?
Mysterious no not at all, we don't live that close to each other so it's so we can get a decent Saturday together I.e wake up with each other rather than spend the morning driving!

The ex I met on POF......moved in after 4 months and pregnant within 6.

The first red flag was there within the first month now after an argument on a night out. I don't argue. I have no interest in arguing. Yet he started rows at every opportunity. Turned out to be a narcissistic emotional and financial abuser who I reported to the police twice. Second time I had him removed

Debbs sorry to hear that..are you with anyone now?

I'm having one of my moments. I don't feel I can talk to anyone in rl tbh.
I'm still seeing the same man..all is great..it's def me. He seems quieter than he was when we met..this weekend he's seemed very tired..I look back now and know it's because he was out Friday night and has a hard job but at the time I just feel like he's going off me/I'm annoying him. I really like him and dread him saying things aren't working..yet he messages and tells me such nice stuff..I need to chill out and enjoy him.