Torn

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Has anyone been with someone years, got a kid , but gone through a lot in the relationship, still love them but someone else comes along totally different who shows they like you and want more , has any one ever been here

Were you happy before you met this new person?

Of course. Every cheater ever. Err OP I think you're going to get flamed.

Thought this was going to be a sweet poem to a guy named Tom.

Let your Tom go OP. He deserves better.

If someone different same along and wanted more, I'd just tell them I wasn't interested.

Yes. Well not with a child, but it doesn't change anything.

Only you know whether your DP is the one for you, for life, or if you aren't getting what you need from this relationship. Sometimes we are just muddling along and someone or something happens to make us realise we want a whole lot more out of life. There's no crime in that, but make your decision before you do anything regrettable and finish it with your DP OR decide he is the one for you and sometimes that means sacrificing a bit of fun/excitement/lust along the way.

Don't try to have your cake & eat it, it hurts too many people.

Nothing is happening he just a mate , it's only been a thought in my mind that I wanted to put out there to others, I no how it sounds but I'm not a bad person, when I love someone I love hard and I love my fella to bits , but in our 5 years he has put me through hell, drugs drink moods lies never cheated but things iv said are bad enough, I stuck it out even tho at times I was close to the edge cuz I couldn't bear letting go , but last year I carnt help but worry if I'm gonna be okay with him and ever be fully settled , just scared I guess , i carnt bear thought of someone else with me and I do love him do you think that means I'm just being daft

Try thinking about what you want your life to be like in 1 year, 5 years.