Been with p for 10 years, 1 dc who is 1. Known p was a liar and cheat for about 5 years but never really had proof and didn't want to believe it so I continued with rose tinted glasses until I was 6 months pregnant and p affair finally came out. He did everything possible to reassure me blah blah and in my hormonal state I believed him and let him stay.
Since then I've found multiple messages on his phone to and from (mainly to) other women. Each time I've asked him to leave, he refuses, I ignore him for a few weeks and I eventually just returns to normal until next time.
I've had a message from a woman this morning telling me he has been messaging her inappropriatly and she has a partner so not interested.
I've had enough and I don't want Ds growing up thinking he can treat women like this. We rent a house together from a friend which I'm reluctant to give up as 1. I don't want to let my friend down as she actually purchased the house specifically for us in an area I need to be in for work, future schools, family support, rent is cheap for the area ect ect. 2. This is DC home which I have worked hard making a home for 2 years before he came along.
P is refusing to leave, I have nowhere to go, no room at any familys house already asked but I'm stuck with no money and the housing benefit waiting list for new claims is 5 months long. I do work part time. I'm just sick of feeling like I'm stuck with this utter bastard who also has a drink and cannabis problem he refuses to acknowledge.