To text? Or not to text? That is the question

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Hi all.

Been lurking a bit on the dating threads and it seems the general consensus is to let the man do 100% of the chasing.

I met a guy like 2 weeks ago on Tinder. We had a really lovely first date. Lots of chatting, and at the end as he walked me to the taxi office there was lots of passionate making out and hand holding... great!

He text me instantly as I got my cab saying he had an amazing time and he would love to see me again.

He kept texting me a lot for the rest of the week. Lots of flirting and stuff and trying to arrange a 2nd date.

He said that the weekend after he was on a training course but he would try and meet me for a drink at some point, but it would most definitely be mid week this week.

I just told him to text me if he has a free moment and we'll try and sort something out. That was on Thursday and I haven't heard from him since.

I haven't texted him but checked and he's been online on whatsapp and stuff.

Just feeling a bit deflated really. Should I just be brave and text him being all assertive asking him to meet? Or should I just wait for him?

Datings a mine field. I'm really new to all this stuff.

He's game playing, so definitely turn him down if he gets in touch.

I hope you have fun with the Dr 😊

Good for you OP, agreed with PP he's a game player. Who's got time for guys like this? He'll probably end up kicking himself now he's missed his chance x

How many dates in before you can stop worrying about texting first??

Yeah I'm really getting the game playing vibes from him now which is such a massive turn off. Ain't nobody got time for that!!

Shame because he was really attractive but ohhhhh well

Good question @namobamo1 I'd love to know the answer to that to!

Anyone?

I bet you wish you'd not caved in and sent the text now! Next time don't listen to the clueless posters spouting nonsense about 'girl power' and all that shit, if someone is not making it patently clear that they are interested in you, ie. not bothering to contact you, never chase them, and yes sending a text when you know deep down they are not interested, IS chasing.

@HotNatured Surprisngly I actually feel a lot better now. I know where I stand as he has made it obviously clear that he's just game playing where as before I wasn't sure.