Men die younger - is that why we want to take care of them?

[MorbidMama]

I was reading a couple of Xenia-type thread about 'why do women allow men to get away with not pulling their weight at home'?

I applied it to myself - dh is perfectly willing and housetrained - but I push myself to my limits to try to reduce the domestic pressure on him.

Why? Do I lack self esteem? Have I been conditioned to think my domestic role inferior?

I've looked inside myself - and I've figured it. I'm convinced - and frightened - I'll outlive my dh - and hence I want to do all I can to reduuce stress on him.

The feeling's really strong. We're early twenties and good health. Is this the same for others? Women do live longer than men - and perhaps it's ingrained in our attitude.

Namechange because it's quite sensitive.

interesting!
If this is true then I am certainly guilty of pushing my DH to a very early grave indeed.

But I don't think housework ever killed a man tbh.

not for me, if he dies before me its because he's older than me not because he lifted up a sodding hoover as often as I do.

Women live longer than men though, so, if we do most of the housework (which lets face it we do!) its probably helping to keep us a bit fitter...therefore, if men did more..they would live longer

I personally think that despite womens lib etc, women are still conditioned into thinking they should do the housework etc - all the domestic kids toys in the shops - ovens etc are more geared towards girls and you never see a bloke on a washing powder advert beaming with happiness cos his sodding sheets came out nice and white!

Nikki that's because men like when things are dirty

filty bastards

they are peegs

and I have no desire to take care of one, that's what children are for.

lol at concept of hoovering = living longer

I should be dead.

Well DH has a chronic condition and the long-term drugs probably increase his risk of some life-threatening conditions happening earlier than can normally be expected

but gawd no .. he does his share (more than his share) ..

I think maybe you think that the reason he loves you is because you take care of him??

No, we do more housework and think of men as 'just not grown up really' because we live in a flawed and sexist society. I think.

I have to say I have absolutely no urge to look after my (male) partner. He's a grownup. I have two children to look after, and they stretch me to the bleedin' limit.

It annoys me when DH hoovers and doesn't do the skirting boards....I have to hover around him and say 'do the edges'......I guess that's a total other thread though

They don't polish either....

oops .. bad twig .. lazy twig .. lucky twig

I have to admit Mr Inferior has done all the cooking for the past week or so as I've lolled around exhaustedly. No, I tell a lie, I made an omelette last night.

oops .. he made pancakes for breakfast too

Oh yes, breakfast pancakes

Perhaps it is conditioning... I'm of foreign origin (but when I was a baby).

I find I have to bite my tongue around dh's family, because I'm uncomfortable with the 'bloke bashing'. He'll go round there - end up taking four kids to the park while womenfolk have a lie in (it seems expected)... I'll be on the phone saying 'where's your lie in, eh?'.

I'm just a double agent for feminist emancipation .

Btw - I'm also very bad at housework

Men on average die younger

Actually that's the theory about why more boys are born, to match the girls. Men and boys start to die of opretty soon- motorbike accidents, car incidents etc etc etc. I've even read that boys are less likely to survive premmie birts etc than girls. (I know how scary that reads btw I've 3 boys myself) Then theres hings like ASfd that are 4 times as common in males and take them out of the breeding pool.

We don't need to care for them more.

they need to look after hemselves more.

Don't you think its funny that when men have to look after themselves, the standards drop i.e pizza is ok two nights in a row etc, lasagne without garlic bread (cos they forgot to buy it) is acceptable...but when we do it...its a different matter all together!!

DH organises his night time meal (3 am at work meal) for himself, I cook at home (he does the washing up- it works). If I make pasta and gforget the accompniments,, or the pizza isn't the right flavour, or the home made (had to get that in after pizza ) bean chilli isn't sp[icy enough it gets mentioned.

To work he is happy to take pot noodle or frozen kebab.

i have NO desire to look after any man!!they are adults who can quite happily look after themselves, and whats more, some of them are really rather good at cleaning/housework thus putting us females to shame.

My Dh does loads of housework, but supposedly has a reduced life expectancy because apaprently depression, night work etc all reduce this quite dramatically.

I do try and lift the burden on him, but tbh there's enough work in this house for 11 full time staff, nobody gets a break.

If mine would hurry up and drop off the perch it would save all this divorcin' nuisance. But he's the type who'll live forever.

No don't look after them just insure them for hell of a lot - am still waiting for XH to pop his birkenstocks - want to hang on to DH though he scrummy!!