Shall I just walk away or is it just a blip????

[Queenmummy2]

Hi, pls I need advice iv been with my oh for 10 years we have a little girl of 2 he's been inside for all her life but iv made sure he's had a relationship with her from the beginning. Anyway recently he's coming out on home leave that's been great for us all but all of a sudden he rings me & just insults me down the phone critising my figure & how iv apparently let myself go😤 I wouldn't mind but I'm a size 6 yes I do need to tone up a bit but being a single mum with no help with my child I don't really have the time at the mo for myself. Wtf is that all about!! I feel so angry towards him at the mo he's normally an amazing oh. What should I do.. xx

What did he actually say, OP. His actual words?

You say he was just agreeing with you about how you need to sort
Yourself out ?

Your first post doesn't quite tally with this Op but all of a sudden he rings me & just insults me down the phone critising my figure & how iv apparently let myself go

I'd be careful about having him back.

Is this the first time he's been in prison OP?

So he didnt insult you? He simply agreed with you?

Queenm You are back peddling...

Yeah, amazing. Sounds like a real catch.

The problem is you. You don't value yourself.

Oh please don't agree with him op!

Do you tell him he needs to "sort himself out" and that he's "let himself go" . Do you criticise his body?

He seems to have been playing along to make sure you're there when he's out but now he's almost there he is giving you glimpses into what you can expect when you're back together.

I would be very wary.

He sounds like a twat. Sorry but there is no reason for speaking to you like that, no matter how stressed he is.
Don't go down the 'everyone has problems so this isnt too bad' train of thought. It is bad and you really, really can do better.
Sorry you've waited for him only for him to turn out to be a waste of space. Don't waste any more of your time!