My heads going to explode

[Gracey1231]

My grandad who helped look after me as a child is dying of Alzheimer's, I'm devastated. And on top of that my mother is making everything about her.

She keeps telling me how hard seeing him is for her, yet when I said don't go, she has to, she wants recognition once again for doing something so hard. She's going on to me how heartbroken she is, my grandad isn't her dad he's her father in law, but my dad sadly passed away.

And to top it all off this morning I've had a bit of a car incident, a man has run into the side of me and scratched my car, I'm fine and my mum wasn't there but she's now crying and wailing. I can't cope with this at all.

I want to know why she has to make everything about her but if I criticise her she flies off the handle and kicks off.

I can't leave my family at this sad time, anymore of this off my mother I'm going to lose my head, everyone has to treat her as a victim all the time and I'm fed up.

I'd just act disinterested in her, don't pander to her and don't give her the attention she's clearly craving. Change the subject when she's trying to go all "woe is me"

Google 'Narcissist'
You'll find your mother there.
Go onto Amazon and put in 'daughter of a narcissist'
Start reading up on how to handle them better.

Was just going to say it sounds like your mum's a narcissist unfortunately.
There's nothing you can do to change her behaviour, only the way you react to it.

Thanks guys I'll have a look at some books, so fed up