I messed up, need a non judgemental view

[missmelly1311]

So I'm gonna try and keep this short.
I was with the babies dad, we broke up and have been for about 3-4 months now. I met someone, slept with him after a while (unprotected) also this was quite early after breaking up with the babies dad and was short lived (2 weeks) he robbed from me and turns out he's a bit of a village bike.
Anyway, recently I've met someone I truly like and care for. He literally makes me feel different to anyone else. Unfortunately we've had sex too and now I'm absolutely bricking it that I may have an std from the robber and now passed it on to this amazing guy!
I've ordered a home test for everything and sent it off today but the wait is killing me! I know I should tell him but I don't see the point until I know for definite but then now he'll ask why we aren't having sex.
I've never been in this situation and it's killing me. I feel so bad and I know all the blame is on me.
I'm just looking for some support of some kind?

Read my above message, not random men!

It doesn't matter if you've known them since you were 2. If you're going to have sex with multiple partners, then use a condom. Stay safe

You're worried about the other man giving you an STD but this new lovely man might be riddled with STD's himself!
Just saying

Fingers crossed nobody has an STD though and you can get yourself a box of condoms for future encounters!

LOL @ none-judgemental view wanted..... doesn't look like that'll ever happen here.

Why don't you spend some time focusing on your babies instead of sh@gging robbers? Sorry that was a bit judgmental...

Take no notice of the horrid judgmental replies you've had on this thread op, there's some really sad unhappy people out there who like nothing better than kicking someone when they're down. You made a mistake that's all 💐

The new one could have given you the STI? If it turns out positive, tell him you have it and ask if it came from him. Balance the blame!

There are hideous people on here, please ignore them ❤

The new one could have given you the STI? If it turns out positive, tell him you have it and ask if it came from him. Balance the blame!

I have read this advice before in a thread where somebody who was worried they'd passed HIV on to a new partner because his ex had tested positive.

It is vile advice.

Please do not do this.

You absolutely need to go to asexual health clinic for a full check. A home chlamydia test won't tell you if you have gonorrhoea, syphillis or a range of other infections. Taking your child is fine if you have no alternative, it's a doctor appointment.

Both partners in a new relationship should get tested before unprotected sex so maybe suggest he does the same? Consider the irony if you are fine but he then passes something on to you?

Do think about some of the comments on here. I'm not judgemental but old enough to know that sleeping with people very quickly often doesn't end well especially if it happens several times in quick succession.

Good luck with your new man.

Condoms, condoms, condoms.

Buy loads. Keep a few on you at all times. Always, always use them.

And enjoy your sex life.