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When you will never love or be loved again

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user1499590110 · 16/07/2017 11:19

I'm nearly 32 (two weeks) and I seemed to have messed up everything so far in my life.

I wasted my twenties by being obsessed with my career. I like my job now, but while everyone is marrying the people they met at uni and in their twenties, the most people I meet in 'real life' are older and married. I'm in a very male dominated environment at work, but still havent been one of the women who have met someone decent at work.

When focusing on my career, I barely travelled much and so have all these places I would like to see, but nobody to see them with. I have been on dates recently (after a horrible experience with a man who was very much not separated as he told me he was), and some men are lovely but I just feel nothing.

I have two friends who are single and they love going out. I sometimes go with them, but it really isn't my scene at all. I used to enjoy a night out, but now I would love nothing more than a stable relationship and a night in watched tv together.

Not sure why I am posting really. I think there must be something wrong with me to be in the 5 percent of people I know who isn't in a relationship or married with a family. I feel as if my life is just a dull waiting game, and it just wont happen for me - even when I meet someone nice I dont care about meeting them again.

It feels to me that I will never love or be loved again, and if i want a relationship maybe i just need to fake it a little and just settle for the companionship. I have dated so much and I talk to a lot of people, there's just never a spark on my side.Not sure why I am posting. Just feel miserable today.

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IP1974 · 16/07/2017 11:28

Bless you. You're not alone. I was in your situation at your age then I met someone on OLD who I was with for 7 years. It was a relationship that was wrong from day one and I knew this but stuck with it. I left him 2 years ago. Best decision ever.

Don't settle for something you're not 100% happy with, it's not worth it. As a side I met my DP 8 months ago and it's the happiest healthiest relationship I've ever been in. But that's by the by really. What I mean is try to be happy on your own. Don't settle for companionship, you deserve better than that

Tiredbutnotyetretired · 16/07/2017 12:31

You are not alone, i am close in age to you and i feel life is passing me by sometimes.
I want to travel to nice places but i dont have the money, i want more children but im not in a relationship, i had friends in my 20s but a recent break up and some major life changes and most of those friends are gone.
I suffer with anxiety and depression and going out drinking only leaves me feeling worse the next day, especially going home to an empty bed.
I try to stay busy and keep my mind occupied or I'll meditate and read books but sometimes i feel so lonely. I suppose its just a waiting game.
You never know whats round the corner.

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