Need to stop and remember....

[pw2212]

Don't even know what you would call it but have been growing close to a work colleague for a number of months but I need to take a step back and put some distance between us - sounds easy, right? He has a number of behaviors that should be enough to make me run a mile but we have shared so much that I'm finding it really hard....need to find someone who really wants to be with me.....

Please tell me I'm not the only one.....

You're not the only one! I think the best but hardest thing to learn is to walk away from men that aren't that into you. You deserve better and to find someone that wants to be with you.

Also, stepping away when you see red flags - just because you like someone it doesn't mean they are right for you.

I really like Amy Young on YouTube - she's got some great videos along these lines.

Currently watching He's Just Not That Into You for the millionth time. Hope you work it out and find someone perfect for you. x

Thanks Why - so tomorrow is a fresh start - no going for coffee or lunch with him - need to remember....

I symapthise entirely.

I have a giant crush on someone I work with. He's flirty, lovely, defended me when things have been said, ask about my dates with other guys, teases me ect...

All green flags.

Minus the fact he's got a bloody girlfriend.

My usual way of dealing would be complete removal of contact... can't do that cause I have to talk to him on the phone.

So I'm in emotional limbo. Tried to put distance - keep it professional. He noticed and called me out on being off with him.

Bollocks to it all.

We are both single - we started off by talking a lot as friends but lately when we have started going out with work, we have ended up together.

It would be so much easier if I didn't see and speak to him every day. He is lovely and kind but also has lots of issues and that is what makes it so hard.