DH and dating sites

[Gettingonwithit1]

My DH and I are having difficulties after 25 years married. We have 2 teen dcs.

We share a laptop and he left he's email account open. I saw a weekly email from guardian soulmates. He says this is just because he subcribes to their news but I don't know whether to believe him.

There was a summary of ladies without pictures.

Does anyone know if the Guardian would send a soul mates email if the news subcriber hadn't asked for it?

If it's a promotion yes.

I don't think so

I used to get the emails because I signed up to it so I think it's likely he has too

How do i know if it's a promotion though? It just said weekly round up for soul mates and listed ladies in our area.

It didn't say promotion or suggest signing up.

Sounds like he is a member OP

Does it have a login button to the account on the email?

In fairness I get loads of stuff like that in my inbox that looks all
Official! I'm not on anyway, they're designed like that I think to make you think you're already half way there maybe?

If it's from an actual account I agree there will be an option to log in

I can't get into his email account. I did the forgot password and it says it sent a reset to the email.

I have had promotional emails before but the one he had didn't sound promotional. I asked him about this in marriage councelling and he sounded so convincing that he hadn't signed up.

Well then he is on there then. Sorry.

Thanks for all your help. I'll see how he tries to talk himself out of this. It just shows how easy he lies. Doubt he'll want to go to marriage councelling now. It is pointless without honesty.

So sorry OP

Do you have a joint account? See if the subscription fee is being taien?

It is more likely if you are having marriage problems. Have these been ongoing for some time?

I've accessed his email and the reset email was there. I've deleted it for now (and forwarded to my private email account) while i decide when to speak to him. He's using a username that he's obviously given some thought to.
I guess i could do the password reset to see his activity but there's probably no point.
Having trouble for some time but going to councelling and he's accepted he's been emotionally abusive which stems from a bad childhood. He therefore blames that and doesn't take personal responsibility.

Smeaton I've done that and his profile is only 20% and not actuallly subscribed. He has viewed some ladies though. He says he clicked on an ad but hasn't done anything about it. Says it's not surprising given our situation.

I believe he hadn't acted on it but the thought is there and he's been dishonest about it in councelling.

He might have a free trial but if not then you do have to pay for guardian soulmates

I think the thought is enough really. Sorry OP

Yes it's more than a click as I've looked at his profile. He said he was separated and set his locatiin for where he works (40 miles from home). He's now cross that i don't trust him!

He's been emotionally abusive. There should be no coming back from that. The dating site is a red herring

I know you are right. He always manages to turn things around so I'm some how at fault. He is trying to deal with his issues but his therapist is telling him he's not at fault as his childhood moulded his behaviour. I doubt he's totally honest with her though. It's all such a mess to deal with. We need to separate i know.