Getting used to being alone is really hard :(

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I'm recently separated, kind of a mutual decision although instigated by me. He's moving out soon. Friends and family have been great but the realisation of what being on my own is going to be like has hit and I'm both sad and scared.

I'm away at the moment and haven't spoken to anyone other than hotel staff etc for almost 24 hours, had a few texts but mainly people are busy with their own lives.

I wanted my freedom and don't regret my decision but had no idea it would be this hard :(.

It gets better I promise. Allow yourself to feel sad, you are mourning for what you thought you had. You are also getting used to being happy in your own company again.

It took me a good year maybe more to get comfortable again with me.

I did take up a new physical sport to make myself feel better and keep fit etc. That helped as done focussing on work and saying yes to anything social x

It sounds like very early days, I'm only a few days seperated and it's going to be an adjustment.

You're bound to feel sad but I have to say I feel huge excitement too. Can you make some plans for the next few weeks?

I have a list of films I want to see, books I want to read, clothes I want to buy and events in plan to attend. Perhaps try to have some things to look forward to to keep you occupied.

I'm sure you have a great future ahead but I think it's normal to grieve for what could have been for a while.

One day at a time hey?

Hi OP, how long were you together? Do you have DC?
I recently separated after 16 years and yes it takes a hell of a lot of adjustment. I wanted the split (he didn't) but no-one could have warned me how I would feel being on my own.
Ex has had the kids this weekend (for the first time) and I had no plans so found it strange and a bit sad being alone. I have things planned other weekends but there are going to be times like this.
I've taken up running again and really getting into fitness and healthy eating.
Try to plan as much as you can. I even joined a meetup group just to widen my circle a bit too.
It will get better OP

It is tough but you really have to put yourself out there if you're not already. My split was August and I have made lots of truly amazing people since then, some of whom I am exceptionally close to. I don't know if you have kids but becoming a single parent has truly been the making of me personality wise.
Make loads of plans either on your own or with others. Yes people have their own lives but if they care about you they will be there for you. Don't wait for texts, send them etc. I found the people who really came through for me were the ones I didn't expect to. for you

Wow, lots of inspirational women on this thread op
It is a huge learning curve and you are allowed to be sad but I promise it does get better. Be kind to yourself x

You're physically free but not yet psychologically free. Try re-phrasing your wording.
"I am liberated and now I can turn the page and start a new chapter". Then re-write the new chapter doing what you wanted to do, but couldn't whilst you where being suffocated. Be positive and you won't be on your own for long :)

Thank you all, you've made me feel so much better. We do have DC and I know they're having to adapt which means I have to be strong for them. This is my chance but now that it's come it feels terrifying instead of liberating [confused👍].

Live each day as it comes. Try not to think about the future to much it will only cause you anxiety.