Dumped for MH issues

[ncbacktoblack]

Been seeing someone for a while (3 months ish but he moved very quickly). Recently I've been diagnosed with depression and been put on medication. Some days are so bad I can't get out of bed. Put of the blue today he's dumped me via text and blocked all contact. I know it's tough but I have a tendency to put a happy face on when I see him and don't offload on him.

I'm just so gutted. I really didn't need this when I'm already feeling so low. He moved so fast and told me he loved me after a couple of weeks, and now he's just gone

I'm really sorry this has happened to you. Please try and see this as just meaning he wasn't right for you and better now than when you've invested more time and emotion into the relationship.
hugs I know it feels black but it will get better.

Both of us here have had severe incidents of depression and still get quite bad. We work as each others support, when one of us is down. Although when you are in the horrors of depression it is the worst thing to have someone cut and run atlas you know they are cowardly and are better shot of them. I wish you the best in your battle with this terrible illness and hope you can get all the support you need.

I'm supporting my DP through a period of anxiety at the moment. I wouldn't dream of dumping him due to illness. I suppose at least he's shown his true colours early on. To be honest declaring love after a couple of weeks is a big red flag anyway. He's probably done you a favour in the long run. I know it won't feel like that right now. I do hope you are feeling better soon

I think everyone knows what they can cope with and this isn't what he could manage.

Ultimately, the two of you just weren't meant to be. It doesn't mean he's a bad person, but he could have done it verbally, rather than by text.

Did he specifically say it was because of your depression?

Sorry to hear this, OP.

However it sounds like it probably had nothing to do with your depression. Unless he said it was?

Declarations of love after 2 weeks and moving quickly are nearly always a bad sign. He will have done this to others and will do it again.

Nothing to do with you.

I'm glad you have a diagnosis and medication. Have you considered counseling? It really helped me.

my ex had depression; it was really bad. he was suicidal at some point. had to give up work as he often could not even get out if bed.

I have to admit it was sheer hell for me (I realise it must have been a lot worse for my ex). don't underestimate the impact of your depression on your DP. Not everybody can cope. I suppose it there is also a difference between a LATE and somebody you have known for only a very short time.

I just guess he probably just could not handle.

hope you feel better soon

LTR, not late

Just had a long phone conversation with him. He doesn't love me anymore . For someone to fall in and out of love that quickly makes me see his feelings werent real, but mine were

To pps, yes he has said it was because of my depression. My medication wI'll make me feel worse for a few weeks before they kick in and he's left me for it

ncb he does not sound a very stable person, quick to fall in love, quick to fall out of love.

He really doesn't sound like the type of person you need at this point.

I think a steadier, slower pace would suit you and allow for you to heal. Please do not feel too angry with him, he just does not sound right for you.

Hopefully, you will feel better soon and meet someone who can take things at a better pace for you.

If he cannot copeveitg your health he is not on it for the long haul, better to know now. Please do not feel angry. just focus on you. Xx

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You've dodged a bullet. Better you find out how shallow he is at 3 months than 3 years.

I'm sure you feel anything but lucky right now, but in time you'll see he would have been a massive time waster and it would have been much more painful had it gone on longer.

Well done for doing something about your depression, sometimes not an easy thing to do if you're depressed. I hope you're on the road to recovery

I know you're all right. It's just a kick in the teeth when I was already feeling so low

Been there.

He's not someone who would be good for you long term. Hard to accept now, I know.

You need to take care of yourself now. You don't need to worry about him.

While he was clearly caught up in all the early fun stuff, I personally wouldn't go into a relationship knowing someone was suffering so badly from depression at the beginning. I doubt many people would actively choose to.

It's very different to it occuring further into a LTR or marriage as the commitment is already there.

I expected to cry and really hurt, but instead I feel oddly numb. Don't know if it's the meds or the lovely support I've received here! I also think that him telling me he doesn't love me anymore turned me right off and I knew it was over. Makes things easier I guess. Thank you for replying and making me feel less alone

OP, he was not the man for you. It's better sooner than later when you have invested a lot in the relationship.

I have recently separated from my abusive partner, the gym sessions are wonderful. You need some form of physical exercise