After you've been dumped do you start to hate yourself?

[Miaoriely2017]

I was dumped for someone else 7 months ago and ever since I've felt horrible.
When I look in the mirror I just feel disgusting and constantly compare myself to her.
Il have days where I will look at her pic and think he preferred her and my confidence is shattered.
I can't get over someone who wanted me didn't want me anymore whe wanted someone else

I think this is definitely a normal reaction. I know for a fact if my husband left me for another woman my confindence and self esteem would be at zero and I would compare myself to the OW.

You need to try and build your confidence back up, block them on social media so you can't be tempted to look at their profiles and pictures, it's not doing you any good.

Why are you looking at photo's of her? You are your own uniqueness. We are all different. Get yourself out dating again. Look upon it as you have dodged a bullet. Start thinking positively about yourself. It was not your fault.

It will pass. Accept that he wanted something DIFFERENT, not BETTER.
That's human - I don't want steak every night and sometimes a burger is tempting.

It's hard not to look at someone else's pictures
But it's damaging you. As has been said you are unique. You're lovable
Try not to compare yourself, I know it's hard
Build yourself up slowly, it takes longer for some than others
And try and be kind to yourself, I know it sounds trite but it will help you
Perhaps talk to yourself as you would to a friend or a friend would to you, would you compare a friend to this other woman? Would a friend do that vice versa? I don't think they would.
Now just try doing that to yourself
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I went on a date a month ago and he was rude/dull and he took me to the same bar my ex took me on our first date,I was nearly crying.
Stupid I know.
I've booked into get my hair done next Friday,hopefully that will make me feel better.

I agree that it's a very common reaction particularly if you always felt you liked them more than they liked you.

I would say though that if you are in that mental place, dating can be the worse thing to do for a few reasons.

One is that basically you are still into someone else. Going out, kissing someone and constantly thinking "I wish I was here with Ex" and "Ex kisses better than this" makes you feel worse.

It also means you aren't really open to meeting someone. The new guy could be perfect but you aren't actually properly open to it.

Another is that you are feeling vulnerable which means that any rejection or criticism is going to feel like salt in a wound and be super painful.

Another is that it's common now to do OLD and that is a brutal environment at the best of times. You really need the hide of a rhino and a relaxed attitude to do OLD - if you are feeling vulnerable it puts you at risk of all of the above but also bad decisions and being taken advantage of by the catfishers.