Love the man not his mother though ... Long time lurker, first time post, so here goes. I'm 45 years old, DHTB is similar age. We've been together almost 15 years, have three children from previous relationships. We've stuck together through good times and bad. He's been my rock and I love him more than any man. He is great for me but there's one downside ... It's his mother. I really can't stand her. I find her superficial, judgemental, gossipy and manipulative. To give you a flavour this evening she dropped a clanger (it was quite deliberate IMO) about the parentage of one of his cousins who will be there at the wedding! This isn't mere conjecture this is a family secret that she's kept hidden for decades!! Why she felt the need to drop this bombshell now I have no idea. She was quite judgemental about the two women in question (mother and daughter). Maybe I'm blowing this out of all proportion but I went from not being particularly fond of her to full on disliking her and now worrying about what this means for our future happiness together. My OH is her only child. She is very emotionally dependent on him as she is a widow and he is a loving and caring son who generally will not say a bad word about his mother. We spend every summer holiday and every Christmas with her! I don't want to tell my HTB that I dislike his mother but is this going to impact on my marriage? Thinking logically, he's the man I love but I am marrying into her family too. Not looking for solutions per se but just wanting to hear your MN thoughts (and yes it has crossed my mind that maybe I am the queen bitch in this scenario!).