Stately Homers, have you had therapy

[MaggieMeldrum]

I've done all the right things, mainly going non contact. I had a course of nhs CBT because my self esteem was so low it was stopping me from functioning properly. During the CBT it became apparent that the reason I have such a low self esteem is because of my childhood and my toxic mother.
Now my NHS therapy has finished I feel like I need to work on the issues around my mother but I wasn't sure what kind of therapy would work best.
I wondered if anyone else had tried therapy?

Me. Bucket-loads of 'IoPT' - it's especially for this purpose - magic. Has totally changed my life.

Google Vivian Broughton

Loads. It's been such a brilliant help. I got it through my GP after I'd had a couple of courses of CBT: the CBT therapist referred me to a different therapist who worked with me in more depth. So it was all on the NHS.

I would have been a Stately Homer if I hadn't had therapy. Had about 3 years of mainly psychodynamic therapy before moving away from where my therapist worked.

Now see someone who takes a fairly ecletic approach but based in the moment rather than analysing the past which keeps me going.

Psychodynamic therapy didn't fix everything but turned me around and enabled me to keep a loving relationship with my parents - who weren't as toxic as some on Stately Homes but definitely fitted the mould of troubled abused mum and enabler dad. Also got me to have a healthy marriage of my own instead of the absolute EA knobbers I was picking before.

Oh - was v lucky and I got this funded through work (NHS Occ Health). Said scheme doesn't exist anymore

Yes. I had therapy when I was 19 but refused to accept that it could help - so it didn't. Tried again at 24 just after DS1 was born and it changed my entire world. I met DH 2 years later and as Hulder said, it helped me make better choices and build a relationship based on so much more than the insecurity and low-self-esteem I'd been using previously.

I'd do it again in a heartbeat if I felt myself getting towards that place. It was difficult at times and some weeks I would leave feeling utterly broken after rehashing and reopening old wounds. But it helped me heal those old wounds so much more smoothly, helped me think of them differently and helped my self esteem in ways I can't really explain.

I've been asking for help for years - never got it. I tried to commit suicide twice in the past week - very nearly succeeded the second time.

Yes lots at different stages in my life. It's helped me tremendously. The most useful for me has been psychodynamic. I paid for mine privately some of the best money I spent in my life