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Adultwork.com site. Need as much info on this site as possible!! ASAP!

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prettyinpink123 · 14/07/2017 14:37

Helloooo,

To cut a long story short I have found out that my partner has been using the adultwork website as I've seen a few emails of him making payments. He has told em that he has watched a few videos and messaged a couple of people to comment on the video he has watched 😥 BUT I have also seen emails where some of the users have left him feedback, I cannot access the account therefore I can't see what it says or what it was for.. my question is what services are they able to leave feedback for on this site.. as far as I can see from googling myself you can online send or receive feedback once a booking to meet or talk to someone has been made.. is this the only times as I would like to know fully what I'm dealing with and exactly what he has done to decide what I want to do about this situation! Any extra info on how this site work would be greatly appreciated too! He is back tonight for us to talk and I would really like to know as much as I can to get the full story out of him 😫
Thanks in advance

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KatherineMumsnet · 14/07/2017 17:07

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prettyinpink123 · 14/07/2017 17:25

Thank you!

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prettyinpink123 · 14/07/2017 17:25

They were pretty spread apart time frames

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Doesntfitthemould · 14/07/2017 19:55

Please don't flame me for this but I would like to point out that some of the conversations, even on cam chats are not sexual! Some chaps just want to talk about their day to day life, work etc.
Also, the women are not all scantily clad.

HirplesWithHaggis · 14/07/2017 20:03

Looks like he's buying AW credits then. He'll be using them for camgirls, or to look at the private galleries of escorts (usually more raunchy than public photos).

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prettyinpink123 · 14/07/2017 20:22

Thank you for all the advice and help guys! You e brought to light a few this my mushy brain hasn't thought of this week!

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NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 14/07/2017 20:34

I've just looked at cam work seems 1.50-3 per minute.

Phone work 1-3 a minute.

So maybe 15 minutes worth here and there?

As the payments are small and spread out I don't think it's escorts in person.

Of course he's still completely wrong and being a shit to lie to you like that.

NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 14/07/2017 20:34

I looked at some girls prices didn't literally look obviously.

NoSquirrels · 14/07/2017 20:49

It's up to you, of course, but could you trust him again? How do you feel about the idea he's paying for services? Even if "no contact" it's pretty grubby, huh? And disrespectful if your relationship.

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prettyinpink123 · 14/07/2017 20:55

I understand where all of you are coming from and of course this has cut pretty deep and I'm not happy about the situation at all, I have said I will try to re build our trust now I feel we have spoken properly whether we will get anywhere and work it out who knows, maybe I won't be able to do it but I feel like I could try. He's aware I may still tell him to leave

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NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 14/07/2017 21:43

I understand.

If he's prepared to stop or you're prepared to let it slide and it works that's good.

Only give up if you want to.

Ellisandra · 15/07/2017 08:07

Now that you've spoken properly?
That's good.
So he's admitted that he lied about the password change, logged in and showed you his activity, and explained exactly what he was spending the £30 sums on then?

AceholeRimmer · 15/07/2017 08:57

Any interaction with that website would be unforgiveable to me. Don't let him off easily OP, his intentions were there.

TDHManchester · 16/07/2017 17:27

Its hard to beleive that people will willingly prostitute themselves on such a site, make money on it for providing sexual services and then blame men for paying them.

fsos · 16/07/2017 19:35

I liked the "they're probably not talking about sex" one myself. £30 an hour to complain about his day? Grin

Livingdeadgirl1 · 04/10/2019 10:40

Im having a similar problem,i found messages from my boyfriends phone saying he wanted to cancel the meet up. I spoke to him and he told me that he ordered a girl but decided he wouldnt cheat on me so cancelled the appointment. When i asked him to delete his account he said he didnt have an account and that you could book without one. Is this true or am i believing BS obviously i want all the information about this website before i go and end things with him. Anything more you can tell me about this website would be appreciated

RLEOM · 04/10/2019 11:50

Sounds like a porn addict. Run.

heartburn888 · 04/10/2019 12:20

He’s probably been showing himself on webcam. My partner was signed up to something similar, thankfully before we met but no way should he be doing this when he’s with you. It’s disrespectful.

He could of done the webcam performance, may have met someone. He needs to show you the account and the activity

Fedup0007 · 04/10/2019 12:22

@Livingdeadgirl1

There’s no way a site like that would allow their girls to be booked out to someone who has not been verified by their internal processes. I would assume they will need to provide some form of ID and then a credit card most likely

SherbetSaucer · 04/10/2019 12:32

Webcam performances would be a deal breaker for me

Just to give a different perspective... it wouldn’t bother me an iota. So long as there isn’t an emotional connection/fixation being developed with any one person I don’t see it being any different to porn.

TinyTinathy · 04/10/2019 12:37

@OP
From what I've seen, a 15 minute meet would be at least £50. If you're seeing £20-£30 every few months, it's probably for cam shows.

@Livingdeadgirl1
I don't know whether your boyfriend is lying or not, but you can. When you look at profiles on the site, most of them specify mobile phone numbers you can call. From what I can tell, it's more like eBay than an actual escort agency in that it connects buyers and sellers but doesn't really get involved in the process.

MarianaMoatedGrange · 04/10/2019 12:41

Zombie thread resurrected. I doubt OP will reply after two years.

hellsbellsmelons · 04/10/2019 12:52

So I assume you are not married?
How long have you been together?
Do you have DC together?

Livingdeadgirl1 · 04/10/2019 13:11

Nope not married we have been together 3 years offically and 4 unofficially we dont have a DC together all i know is the message i saw and what he has told me i went on the site but had to come off as i was so upset about it all

hellsbellsmelons · 04/10/2019 13:21

Ooopppsss.. totally and utterly missed the date.
I usually check when it AW as well.
So..... OP, you are still with him?
I hope all is going well?