So, dh doesn't care if I get my kit off online

[Jellybellyqueen]

Related to the reddit thread going on. Asked DP what he would think if I posted a boob shot or similar to reddit gonewild, first response was "I don't know, do it and I'll tell you." Yeah, right. This then changed to 'i wouldn't be that worried. ' and something that basically sounded like he couldn't give a toss. Although when I said it sounded like he didn't care what I did he then upped it to 'Iwouldn't like it much,' but wouldn't elaborate. It left me feeling oddly like he doesn't really give a shit about me. I'm no pretty,skinny, spring chicken, don't imagine I'd get any positive comments, so it's not like he'd enjoy other people upvoting my pic. Does he think it would be funny for me to see crap comments about my body? How would you read this? And how would your dh react?

I have a fetlife profile with photos of me on, my man knows this. And I'd fine with it.

So whats happened is, you have said
"I don't like you looking at these women. What would you think if that was me on there?"
and he has said
"Dunno, up to you, don't care" non committal words of this sort, yes?
Now you are fighting over him not caring about you putting pics of your tits on reddit.
Do the both of you a favour and end it. You sound emotionally immature and need time out to work on yourself and grow up before you start another relationship.
By the way you are totally entitled to a relationship with a guy who doesn't devote so much time to these sites but this has nothing to do with that.

Yes it is of course op.

You seem a bit peeved that he hasn't gone nuts.

nousername thanks for the insight. I don't think I'd get through the things I have at my age if I were emotionally immature, bit I have already said this question was in the aftermath of lies, porn and arguments. Not everyone is clear headed over emotive issues all the time. I know myself pretty well by now, and I'm not looking to jump into another relationship. In fact, isn't it more emotionally mature to try and work through issues rather than abandon that and move onto someone new?

You seem a bit peeved that he hasn't gone nuts.
Nah, not now I've had time to think about it. I do get a bit tired of half answers about things though, which is a common theme of his. I sometimes feel like a conversation is like getting blood out of a stone, with me needing to word questions very precisely in order to get anything other than a non-committal answer. It's probably that bit that made me most peeved.

It's a hypothetical question that will always end up with one party being pissed off.

Tit for tat 🤣🤣🤣

Eh it's odd. I know my husband would care very much. But then nobody wants to see a fat 27 year old anyway. Except perhaps the large breasts.

I'd say he's either very laid back and comfortable that you'd never do anything but post a pic, knows you wouldn't post a pic or doesn't give a crap about the relationship.