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Underpaid overworked servant for mr arrogant??

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Lolafred · 14/07/2017 04:07

Hi can i get a post.

So im sat here sobbing in my kitchen just like i was the week before and the week before that and so on for about 6 months.

My partner literally doesnt give a shit about no one but himself. Ive literally just realised! He leaves me to do everything (even diy) why he swans in n out so called pricing jobs but comes back in a inebriated state. I never used to mind because i was with the baby and my 8 year old. But it everyday. He cant cope with the baby (2yearold) i never ever get a break. I average 4 hours sleep a night.

Its the crappy attitude he has with me that puts the cherry on top.

We've had numerous chats and tears when kids asleep but nothing changes for more than2/3 days.

My garden has piled with his work junk and i fell 2 week ago over it and injured myself that bad ive had surgery 4 days ago. Hes never asked how its feeling or if im ok! Even though it could of been one of kids! Stil not cleared it either. He was meant to take me the hospital for the surgery at 7:30am but he shouted and swore.
I got a taxi instead

Wednesday his dad phoned and said his dogs ill and needs vet (should of been took weeks ago) he set alarms and was up and out the door for 7am to pick the dog up n sort it.

Its hit home how low on the pile i am and i feel broken.

Im right here? This is over for sure.

OP posts:
RockPaperCut · 14/07/2017 04:31

I'm sorry you're going through this. He should be there for you at your most vulnerable, it really is unforgivable. You are not broken. You will be ok whatever you decide to do. Do you have any support?

My STBXH was the same. I had an infection after the birth of my eldest. I had to get a taxi with my 4 day old and take myself back to hospital, he'd refused to take a day off work. This sort of betrayal is so hard to recover from.

BadHatter · 14/07/2017 04:37

Can you do something weekly for a couple of hours (hobby, socialize, exercise, etc) without the kids that would force him to look after them? Maybe he'll learn to be more responsible.

You need to take out chunks of time just to destress, to focus on your own wellbeing.

Bluebelle38 · 14/07/2017 06:15

Why are you staying? Why do you think anything will change? It's time to face reality that this is not a good man or partner. You deserve a happy life.

category12 · 14/07/2017 06:22

Yes it sounds like it's over. At least since you do everything, ditching him will cut your workload. Nothing is changing and he's treating you contemptuously : it's horrible that he won't help you when you need surgery, but will help with his father's dog.

caffelatte100 · 14/07/2017 07:15

He sounds really awful and very selfish, he is not interested in you and it sounds like he will not change. I could not put up with this.

mohuzivajehi · 14/07/2017 07:19

He sounds awful
Does he have any good points?
Has he always been like this?
To what extent is it possible that he is a fundamentally OK person currently in the grip of alcoholism and depression, or is he just an irredeemable arse?

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