Separated, early days. Please tell me it gets better!

[Dragonbreath8]

Hi, my DH moved out a month ago and i'm having a bloody awful, emotional week, crying a lot, not sure what has set me off as thought I was getting stronger. Back story is we have been married 7 years and together 15. 2 dcs under 4. He had been acting cold and emotionally distant for a while following a period of depression (him) which had followed massive life changes (big move, 2nd child, new jobs). Earlier this year he blurted out that he didn't know how he felt about me/our lives anymore. He then spent a further couple of months dicking about, swearing that there was nobody else before finally admitting to an affair. Like a mug I was prepared to work on things but he lasted a couple of days before saying he wasn't up for it, felt nothing for me etc and left. He's not living with the OW (she has a partner and kids) but i suspect it's still going on. I'm being as practical as possible - have taken legal advice (he has his head stuck in the sand about divorce) and am keeping busy with the kids, i'm having counselling and have lots of RL support. He sees the kids regularly. Things are not friendly between us, all a bit raw. But I thought I had moved from the initial, horrible shock and devastation to the beginning of acceptance. But this week I feel so overwhelmingly sad. Looking for positive stories/support I guess. Thanks x

I've been where you are now - my exW cheated and ended the marriage. I didn't see it coming at all.

Your emotions will yo-yo for a long while yet and you probably won't stop bringing it up in conversations with your -bored- good friends for another 6-12 months, at least.

Don't beat yourself up about it. It's the grieving process. It's natural and normal and is doing your long term mental health some good by expressing it. It does get better, you just have to soldier on through this bit.

I know how you feel, I have been separated since January but on and off until 4 weeks ago and it feels as though I'm back at square one. But you'll have good and bad days, I find keeping busy helps alot. Speaking with people that will keep u focused and positive for new and better things. Making sure im being a good mum so at the end of the day when they're in bed and im on my own i know ive done my best for them. It'll get easier, each day.

Thank you and apologies, i've managed to post this thread twice. It really is shit isn't it! Good to hear that it does get better. So hard to believe right now but I know it has to.