Is this a normal relationship or abit odd ?

[Summertimeandthelivingiseasy3]

Some background- my ex and father of
My 4 year old was very EA. I've been with a new
Chap for 7 months. We see each other 3/4 times a week either for day out at park with mine n his kids or evening in making dinner. So far I've not met any of his friends ( although he rarely socialises ) or his parents ( although he's mentioned meeting but never set a date). He wants to
Discuss any moving in chat after we've been together a year. We are both professonals. I feel abit
Odd that I've not
Met one friend
Or
Family member in 7 months (aside from his young kids). Is this all
Sounding ok? My sense of normality went with the Ea ex . Thanks for any feedback X

What happens if you say directly that you would love to meet some of his friends?

I say I would and he says " yes that'd be nice , I should set up a dinner with X and y" then it doesn't happen. Since I've known him he's only been out 3 times with "the boys" to local pub so I guess there hasn't been any parties or big events
To take me to ?!? 😞

No way in hell would I feel committed enough to a man to let him meet my children, if he didn't feel committed enough to me to let me meet his friends

I think you should leave your kids out of this until you know him better, and have more of an idea where it's going.

Perfectly reasonable not to want to talk about moving in until after s year. Still too soon to actually do it with children involved - but OK to talk about future plans.

Interesting point ellisandra bout kids n friends . I did meet one but only because we bumped
Into her at an event X

Would depend on the impression I got of his relationship with his friends and family.

If he's round at his mum/dad/siblings regularly and seems closed to them I'd find it odd.

If they're an only get together for birthdays and Christmas type of family less so.

Bring it up with him. See what he says. Ask for definite plans.

Close to them, not closed.

He lives with his mum and dad . He has brought it up a few times and at first I was hesitant as they are vv traditional and arnt keen on my
"Kid out of marriage" existence 😂. I did mention it and he said " yes we'll arrange a date soon etc " . His brother returns from abroad soon n he's been keen for that meet up to happen. We've booked two mini breaks together n he's met
My fam n family so feels odd x

So have you never been in his home then?!!

And like fuck would I let a man have the privilege of meeting my children if he was going along with his parents' judgement of my morals.

No I've not but tbh he only has his kids on weekends and I like to be at my home as my child is settled and I don't have my parents sitting next to us . I feel happy n like he's commited but I feel uneasy as it seems abnormal

I think it's unusual that he's met your kids and family and you have met no one.

I wonder why he's keeping you a secret.

He disagrees with his mum. But has to live there for abit longer due to his finances

He's uploaded a pic of
Me onto his Facebook which seems
Very public. All v confusing

Why would his parents judge you for being a single mum when he's a single dad?

Not good judgment introducing him to your DC in these circumstances. You could still cut that contact right back.

I think if I lived with my parents, I wouldn't make a point of introducing a girlfriend - all a bit cringeworthy!

And I get that you would prefer him to come to yours - not snog on his mum's sofa

And some people don't have much of a social life so not much for you to be integrated into.

The bit that works get me, is him saying you'll meet them, but not doing it.

My fiancé will never meet my parents cos they're batshit - but I told him that from the start - and they don't share my bathroom

I'm not a secret as I've seen my names on messages , I've been uploaded on Fb. But yes I get your points. His parents don't see anyone but him and his bro, don't have friends outside
Only family etc

All
Sounds abit wierd written down

Something to consider...
Do you want to be with someone who isn't socialable?
It doesn't make him a bad person, but it might mean he's not for you.

I dated someone like that for a year, and it was a relief when we split - I love going out with friends, his and mine.

My cousin is married to someone who doesn't socialise. She loves him, but it's a source of sadness and frustration for her.

Maybe he doesn't actually have friends he's close enough with to make a point of introducing you to them, iyswim? And maybe he's a bit embarrassed about not really having close friends so says 'oh yeh that'd be nice' to avoid actually having to say 'I don't actually really have many friends'.

True , v wise Ellis!!!

Well
Yes I know what you mean. I do find that his friends don't check in with him
Lots.

When I met my dh I didn't meet his friends. Simply because he really hasn't got any. . Work colleagues at the time and met a couple. .
His dm, well he saved me from that fate for a year. . .
His df was pleasant until dm found out he was cosy at our home and that put end to his visits.
Maybe he has reasons to protect you from them. Maybe his past relationship was damaged /affected by them interfering. .

I'm certainly in no hurry to meet my dp's parents. I know for a fact they'll turn their noses up at me (age gap - I'm older - oh and 2 kids)
They are altar-eating holy joes and ultra-conservative teetotallers 😑
Sometimes things are best pushed off .....

Seen this all before....has he got another woman somewhere?