Advice needed please fellow mumsnetters... I confronted my husband the other day about an email conversation with a female colleague at a different branch in which he's deleted part of the conversation. Now the emails I can see are pretty innocent enough but they do show that he's been having more contact with her than I'd realised. His reaction has left me feeling really uncomfortable. He's gone completely ballistic. He's refusing to discuss the emails and instead keeps demanding an apology for my 'disgusting' behaviour. He can't believe I've been snooping, I'm 'delusional' a 'fantasist' 'paranoid'. Don't get me wrong, I know snooping is wrong and can damage trust but to add some context to this, he's been a bit distant in the last year or so. He's got a lot on with work/family life balance and a poorly parent. He hates his job and is trying to change his career. He's been staying up late on his laptop after I've gone to bed. He's not particularly precious about his mobile phone though. Last year he went for a drink with this woman he's been emailing. At the time I was quite upset because we'd not been out in years and he claimed it was a group thing but that everyone had pulled out. So he went and came back and I was cool about it. However, just something about his demeanour made me suspicious. I asked him how they'd arranged to meet and he immediately became defensive and said by text he thinks. I asked to look at his phone. He'd basically deleted any trace of their conversation. He then blew up and accused me of being paranoid, insecure etc. Well, the whole thing got brushed under the carpet but I've always remained a bit guarded. Anyway, I now find out that she's been given a project that he's been helping her with. He claims he's told me about this but he did not. It's completely fine for him to work with this woman but why the secrecy, why withhold info or delete texts and emails? Why is he so angry about me asking about the deleted emails? He's refusing to answer these questions and keeps demanding an apology. I don't know what to think... any advice?