how to ask ex if he has a girlfriend

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My 7 year old randomly told me today that his dad has a girlfriend. Me and his dad split up 6 years ago and i do believe this is his first relationship since our split as his sisters have told me he was single when i asked because we had no contact and he never saw our son.

His dad came back into his life 2 years ago and we do get on quite well. But my son said that his dad told him to keep it a secret because if i found out i will stop him from seeing our son. I'm happy for him if he has a gf and if my son likes her then she must be really nice and good with him and that's all i care about.

I feel so hurt that he thinks i'm spiteful. I could never stop him from seeing his son, he was the one who had always walked away. I need advise on how to ask him if it's true, without him thinking i'm sticking my nose into his business. He is the type to start an argument out of nothing too.

Just say "I hear you have a girlfreind! It's about time" in a cheery voice, then wait and see what he says.

I don't think he will walk out again, he is very close to our son, he said he always wanted to come back into his life but was scared of contacting me. His sister contacted me saying can his dad see him and i did say at first i want him to be supervised because our son didn't know him. Now he has him every weekend.

I am glad you have moved on and have a gf but please don't ask ds to keep secrets from me. .

Smile and move on. .

Tell him to stop telling your son lies about you, stop telling him to keep secrets from you and making you out to be the bad guy. What other rubbish does he tell your son about you? Nip that in the bud soon or you will have a reason to stop him seeing him, all of his own making.

What did you do to your ex to make him fear you so?

Nothing whatsoever i never ever said i stop contact. He walked out on him twice.

Why is it your business? He shouldn't be asking the dc to keep secrets but if you have to say anything to him then it's just that - "please don't ask little Timmy to keep secrets." No need to ask him to confirm her existence.

Him having a gf is what you're focussed on? He told your son a lie and made him promise to keep a secret from you, it appears the spineless git who walked out on your son isn't a trait that's as in the past as you think it is.

God only knows the bullshit he's told his family about you to make him look like the victim, be very careful because the pathological need of some to make up shit to excuse their poor behaviour rarely goes away of his own accord. You can not trust this man so you must be vigilant and work very hard on keeping your relationship with your son as open and honest as his age will allow.

Bad hatter Really? She must have done something to deserve her ex saying stuff like that about her?

Asking a 7 year old to lie about his GF would appear to me to be an underlying fear of repercussions. Now you seem intent of finding out whether it is true or not even though its none of your business.
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