Dating.

[Sammymickyvicky]

I'm looking at starting to date again.

But I have no idea where to start or what to do!

It's been 13 years since I needed to do this.

I'm worried that being a mum of 3 will put men off and the fact I can't have anymore worries me too.

Can anyone offer me any advice.

Go on Tinder, put your prettiest picture up as your profile, lap up the confidence boosting attention, swipe right on anyone who takes your fancy..if you get a match decided whether you want to message or not, take the initiative and enjoy it. Date for datings sake,not as a means to an end. You more than likely wont find the love of your life straight away but you can definitely enjoy looking!!

Try a dating site. You'll come across a lot of cranks and weirdos but it's worth perservering. I was a single mum of three, worried I wouldn't meet anyone as I had a lot of responsibilities but a lot of guys don't actually mind. I met my DP on POF. We've been together 9 months and having a baby in September. Not all men want kids, and lots of the men on there are already dads, so you'll find someone for you.

Thank you and congratulations on the baby. I hope all goes well.

I've signed up to POF and been speaking to some on there I'm just scared of going on dates lol

Thank you, I rushed into dates at first, but had to take a step back and thought I'm best off just chatting to people first for a while to see if we click x

My only advice is be courageous - the worst someone can say is no.

I met my DP at work, I gave him a lift home once and we started talking then would speak on lunch breaks etc and the next
Time I gave him a lift home I asked if he would maybe want to grab some food before dropping him home. (I did have in my head that 'I was just asking cos I was hungry and just thought it would saving him cooking for himself as he lived alone if he said no hahah) we've been together 2 years, own a house and have a 4 month old baby now.

Good luck OP!
P.S be honest quite early about having kids, if it puts them off then they weren't worth it x

OP, pof is not the way you want to go honestly...tinder is what you need to get you back in the game!!

Could ask why wouldn't you use POF

In my experience...pof is full of people trying to sell themselves its like a market place...they tell you they are into long walks on the beach, watching dvds with the wine etc....so ultimately when it sometimes turns out that they do like all those things, just on reflection, not with you how can it do anything except wreck your confidence? Whereas Tinder is straight up liking the look of each other (as you might in a club back in the day) and then getting to know each other.... In short, an online version of an old school night out. Casual and much more enjoyable.

Thank you for that. I'm liking the sound of it. I may join tonight.

I honestly recommend it, I met my DP on it two and a half years ago and we marry in two weeks. People will tell you its a hook up site (whats so wrong with that??) But from small beginnings lovely things can and do grow...good luck !! 😊

I met my DP on POF. There's a lot of arseholes on it but I had a few dates with some really decent men I met on it. You just need to sift through the rubbish to get to the good stuff, good luck.

Thank you all. I've started talking to a bloke. He seems really nice.
To nice but I suppose I'm just not use to it.

My advice is to take everything with a pinch of salt until you get to know them. Don't spend endless hours messaging and meet up ASAP. When you meet the right one, you'll know. If you're not feeling it, move on. Look to meet someone you can enjoy dates with rather than looking if they are marriage material

Good luck and have fun

I agree with Tinder too

I've put myself on both sites so hopefully I can chat to some and maybe have some dates.

This all just feels so odd to me right now but I just don't wanna feel worthless anymore

Your worth isn't tied to relationships or a man.

I really suggest that you work on your own esteem before you start dating

I am. I've started losing weight and so far lost 39lb.

I'm not just looking for a relationship if I could find a friend on there I'd be happy too.

P.S be honest quite early about having kids, if it puts them off then they weren't worth it x

I hate this sort of bollocks.

If someone is looking for something different to you, it doesn't mean they're not "worth it"; it means they are looking for something different, which is perfectly fine.

I'm just going to be honest from the start.

How I see it is. What will be will be.

I agree...the whole "not worth it" is bandied around so commonly on MN and its just not a/true or b/useful. But OP I hope its going well 😊

Thank you. I've not had much luck but oh well lol