Single dad looking for...i dont know really, just someone to tell me im doing ok.

[Dinggus]

Erm hello. First time on here properly, ive come on before just to read and look for advice but never postes.
To cut to the chase. Im 23, a single dad and work full time as a support worker (my mum helps far more than she should) my wife left me just over a year ago, roughly 2 months after being married as she was seeing some body else. She left both me and our daughter to move with the new man. She now sees her once a week but for 4 months she didnt see her at all, by her choice not mine, i hate the thought of her not spending time with her mum. Recently she has been speaking alot about wanting my daughter to move in with her and her new boyfriend. Im honestly terrified that i would lose her if this talk followed through to actions. I dont know if i should see a solicitor or....to be blunt i just have no clue at all.
Im so sorry for this huge chunk of text thats poorly written that maybe know one will see anyway.
Again im not sure what im doing here (with not being a mum on "mums"net)
Erm. Thankyou?

OP, I can only echo the other posters about legal advice. If you go to your local CAB office they can provide a list of local Family Law Solicitors. Many of these offer free initial consultations. See a few and go with the one you feel you gel with. In the meantime keep this to yourself and don't disclose anything to your ex.

You have a lot in your favour, you're the primary carer, you have proved yourself by doing this, and you're the constant parent. I think you have a good case. You need to get advice, take your time and don't panic.

You're obviously doing your best and have your DD's best interests at heart. Good luck

Thanks everyone.

This helped more than you probably realise

Just wading in to say don't let court scare you. You don't have to allow your child to be exposed to drug use - stand firm and get legal advice. Stop panicking it sounds like your child's best interests are met by you being the main carer

Courts will look at who the primary carer is; this is usually the woman, which is why women usually get more custody, but certainly not always. You'll be treated exactly the same as a woman who was in your situation (which I'm sorry you have to go through).