single parents?

[MumToBeXxx]

anyone on here a single parent? what is it really like? pros and cons? I have recently been arguing with my boyfriend, and It doesn't and its not seeming to get any better :( we haven't spoke for 3 days. when I try and confront him for what he has done wrong, he says he doesn't understand what he has done wrong and wont say sorry. (if you want to know about the arguments look for the title thread "argument with boyfriend :(" from last night) this isn't a good atmosphere to bring a baby into, recently he told me that if I walk out of the restaurant he'll never speak to me again. I'm thinking about ending the relationship. I'm 17 weeks pregnant.

I am. With a two year old. Separated from my husband in February / March. But as my husband worked away most of the time I was pretty much going it alone before we split, so the choice wasnt so daunting. Its hard sometimes, but what makes it harder is if the parents are arguing. In terms of dealing with the baby you do the best you can and somehow you get by.

we hardly see each other anyway because we are arguing so much, I live with my family I will continue to do so weather we are together or we split up, my family are very supportive. I don't think we should stay together just because we have a baby. right now I don't know weather I want to be with him or not, he hasn't text me for 3 days and I have absolutely no intentions of texting/contacting him first, he is the one in the wrong. we have been arguing a lot and I will have a good think about things, after an argument one time I dropped him off to his house and he got out of my car slammed the door and told me to fuck off. that Is not a way to speak to your pregnant girlfriend is it?

I dont think you need me to tell you that's not ok.

You have support from family and you appear confident you can do this without him, and the truth is, you can. I wish you all the best. Parenting no matter what situation you are in has challenges, pros and cons. Be the best mum you can be, its up to him to be the best dad he can be but he's not exactly off to a good start is he?

Good luck

Trust me, it is a gazillion times easier being a single parent than trying to raise a child in a toxic relationship. You need to be strong, but you'll be fine xxx

What classy said x 100.

7 years on I would say that every day of the week.

Much prefer being on my own.

I was a SP when DC1 was born. It was bliss. Got back together with his dad, 3 more DCs and a decade later I'm back to being a SP.

I still prefer it.

It's fucking HARD. Don't get me wrong, it's really exhausting emotionally and physically. But still less so than being in a bad relationship. I wouldn't change it.

Agree with previous posters. It is very hard, but so much better for the DC to live in a happy home than one where there are arguments.

I was a single parent with 3 DC under 5. No family support either. And I have no regrets. One of the best decisions I have ever made for all of us (including XDH).