Partner texting female colleague all night

[Crazylou]

My partner has recently started texting a younger work colleague constantly everyday/ night for hours at a time even ending texts with xx, this girl knows who I am and has even seen our son while I've been at his work, I just don't understand why their texting constantly to each other, should I be worried, she doesn't work in same building but visits there occasionally one day when she appeared for the first time she seen me she didn't know who I was when I was standing next to my partner, until she came up close and someone said to her who I was and she went bright red in the face and quickly disappeared, my partner says there's nothing in it when I question him about it, but I just don't understand the texts everyday after working hours

Because they like each other I would imagine and it's exciting

Have you asked him about it? Told him it makes you uncomfortable? If not you need to or nothing will get sorted.

Is he the type to put xx on the end of texts to friends?

Without knowing more it's hard to say if there's anything in it.
I text one if my friends from work lots but he's like a younger brother to me. We sign off with daft emojis etc. DH knows etc.

My gut instinct is that she might have a little crush. It doesn't mean either will act on it. But raise it calmly with your DH if it bothers you.

I wouldn't be comfortable with it. Does he text any other female or male colleagues continuously? So it is actually quite normal for him to text friends this often? Or is it just her he texts and it's out of character?

Like a PP said, it means they enjoy talking to
each other a lot and he wants to continuously talk to her. However I can't say if this is just a friendship or more without knowing what's in the content of the messages.

It doesn't matter if it's all a load of innocent crap, it is in my opinion distespectful , especially if you can't see messages and they are being deleted , I've been there! Mine was responding to and deleting complete crap because he was embarrassed at how much she over communicated but didn't have the guts to tell her to cut it out

Would he be okay if you were constantly texting a male colleague?

Quite often the issue also is that they aren't putting as much into your relationship as they are with another.

My exh did this with a colleague. They knew everything about each other, texted all the time, he was supporting her with her marriage break up etc etc
He developed 'mentionitus' about her, invited her to social events with us and our friends (at which I felt quite uncomfortable), even had her to our house for dinner with us and she stayed over and they took our kids out for breakfast in the morning insisting I have a lie in. All
Very innocent-Hiding in plain sight I suppose.
I lost it finally when she rang him at 5 in the morning one day and he leapt out of bed and spent an hour talking to her on the phone downstairs. At that point in our lives, with two little kids under 4, I couldn't have got him out of bed at that hour with a crow bar.
I asked him about it and he denied anything was going on. I don't think he slept with her but he had definitely checked out of our marriage (at a time when I needed him as I was exhausted, low, and felt massively unattractive) and I would say it was an emotional affair. One of our friends drunkenly confirmed that my h fancied his colleague. He knocked it on the head a bit after that and we moved away for a year, but I would say that that was when our marriage hit the skids really- though we limped on for a few more years after that and he has never really admitted any wrong doing at all.

Is it just the texting OP or do your recognise any of the above as I've described it (or other alarm bells ringing anywhere)? I would be quite wary I guess, at this stage...

nigelsbigface. Yep thats familiar to me too. My H struggled to be arsed to even mow the lawn and yet was over the road sorting her families computer at the drop of a hat. It did ring alarm bells with me at the time and I was gaslighted too for years that I was jealous of him having a young prettty female friend. Now i know what i know that is was an EA at the minimum (one sided according to him) but she certainly did a lot of texting too, I can see what it was--he got a huge buzz out of it at a time he was a bit low. Do not take this lightly OP, its tremendously bad manners at the minimum, make it clear that its not acceptable to you. I let it carry on because I wanted to believe him and he simply was not the kind of guy you would have expected to go off like this , more fool me. I can see now "many" men are vulnerable regardless of how nuch they seem to love you. Its the ego!