co parenting with a narc ex

[greenberet]

This is why I believe we have to tell our children the truth - no matter what the courts say about co-parenting - they are behind the times and need to catch up!

*The Co-Parent Puppet

Nowhere is this dynamic more blatant and painful than when a Puppet is trapped into co-parenting with a narcissist. Because the Puppet has submitted to being thoroughly brainwashed, they may not consciously realize that the orders they are carrying out on behalf of the narcissistic parent are NOT appropriate parenting at all, but actually second-hand narcissistic abuse…and of their own child!*

Taken from the following article
blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism/2017/07/the-narcissists-puppet/

Worst of all is the realization that you abused your own children at the narcissist’s behest - i totally identify with this - squashed my lovely boys natural exuberance & curiosity to keep his father from losing it!

I won't tell my dd the truth about her father at the moment or be horrible about him. He's a narc, very possibly psychotic at times, but my dd doesn't need to feel confused or in the middle.

Of course the dick doesn't do the same but, in not telling her (at least yet, although some things she should never find out) I do feel it's in her best interests.

Impossible to actually coparent with him though.