Talking to someone online, but im a little uneasy?

[gaynor83]

I became friends with a guy on facebook, he added me as we were both in a group about music and got talking.
This was just over a week ago.
I really like talking to him, he is Turkish and lives there, im pretty sure he is who he says he is etc. The thing is after really only a few days of chatting, he sent a suggestive pic of him in his shorts, which he subsequently apologised for and said he was drunk. I said im not like that, and we continued to chat. But he keeps saying how much he likes me, do i like him, and then leaving voice recordings in a similar vein.
I do like talking to him and find him interesting and intelligent, but he seems kind of full on in such a short space of time. Im pretty shy and cautious, im 34 and have been single for a few years now, and i guess im not used to it. Am i just being too wary? Ive clammed up on him now because i felt on the spot.
Thanks for any advice!

[gaynor83]

Most nights when he messages, he says he is drinking beer or wine...
I didnt like the boxers pic much although it wasnt actually showing anything. Still.

[fourquenelles]

Op generally scammers are looking for :

Money (eg. my mum/grandmother, cousin, goat is sick and I need to pay for treatment)
Papers/visa (more difficult now as there are new requirements about finances)
Practice (honing their stories to help then land the "big one")

[PlymouthMaid1]

When I was in Turkey some years ago it quickly became apparent that most Turkish males had a low opinion of European women thinking they were all easy to get into bed etc. Turkey is poor on the whole and there are a lot of charming chancers. Block him or at the very least do not get involved romantically or financially.

[MissJC]

Soon he will tell you he loves you then drop the "my dads friends dogs niece is terminally ill and will only survive with a £5k op!" Bombshell.

Run faster than a fast thing running down a fast road with running shoes on.

[Butterymuffin]

Even if there's no dodgy intent, why start up something with a guy who lives so far away ? It's not like you can easily meet to test out the chemistry. Too much bother. Look for someone nearer.

[MyWhatICallNameChange]

My friend met a man from OLD who was from Turkey. They went on one date and he was declaring his love for her and saying they were meant to be together. He also claimed to own a string of businesses yet lived in a shared house.

She had the good sense to not believe his bullshit and run.

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

He keeps saying he really likes you, leaving voice recordings saying the same.. You have only been messaging a week. It's weird and insincere to say the least.
That probably wasn't even him in the pants picture

He's making you feel uncomfortable so don't continue messaging him.

[gaynor83]

Yeah i saw hes sent more messages in the night saying he likes me, flower emojis etc.
I muted the convo but havent blocked yet. .i have no reply for such things so i havent.
Youre right it cant be sincere in so short a time.
Feel rude for ignoring him but im not comfortable with it, if the conversation was just a normal chat thats fine, but all this "i like you" stuff seems too much to me

[BitOutOfPractice]

Just block him OP.

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

Trust your judgement I think. His gushy messages are absurd!
You sound lovely but you really have no reason to feel bad for ignoring him. It's not rude at all. He's being far too over the top and familiar.

You deserve way better than this odd messaging "relationship".

[lunaysol3828]

OP, I heard endless stories about women from the UK (I really wonder why is it always the UK they target), who were scammed and left without a penny by Turkish men.

I am familiar with a bit of the fraud psychology and this makes perfect sense. He's trying to make you fall in love with him so that anything he would ask you wouldn't question it. It is proven that when they are happy people tend to spend money without thinking.

If you have the gut, carry on with conversation but don't send pics, give fake info when asked & see where this goes.

[Ohyesiam]

Ime of it doesn't feel right. It isn't.
You could ask him why he thinks he likes you when he doesnt know you, or you could block him.