Girl messages!!

[kellyjane020486]

Hi. So I've been with my partner 3 years now. And since then I've had god knows how many girls messaging me trying to say they are his 'bit' on the side. But not once has any of them come back with any proof. No messages about arranging to meet etc etc. Problem is it causes so many arguments. Probably more down to time because I just feel so insecure and emotional about it all. I feel deep down I trust him but always have that niggling feeling in the back of my mind. Do you think these girls are just trying I cause trouble?

How old are you both?

Sounds like a very immature sort of relationship, I can't quite get my head around an endless string of side chicks messaging the main gf trying to sabotage the relationship...

What's he like with his phone? Secretive?

How serious is your relationship? Do you live together?

What would be their motivation?

Ugh! I wouldn't have stayed after the second person. Smoke=fire and all that. And even if it wasn't, who can be arsed with the emotional stressful that causes. Life is too short. There are men out there who don't come with a fan club.

I think that if there have been "God knows how many" it's not likely to be untrue

why would multiple women want to lie to you??

Either somebody has it in for him and is lying or it's true. I would ask for screen shots

Could it be the same person? A scorned ex maybe?

I used to get my ex's gfs suddenly start messaging me I wasn't even talking to him anymore but they always seemed to get hold of my number. It was very fishy.

I think lack of proof is that's it's just someone being a dick if they disappear after that. My dh ex used to message me saying he was with her when he was in bed asleep next to me, sadly she also knew my ex so DH would get the same messages about me from him. I just think of the pair of them being very sad individuals.

If none of these girls know each other then wise up OP, they can't all have it in for him!

How do they message you? Where do they claim to know him from?
As someone else said could it be the same person?

Does your boyfriend do anything that gathers a lot of female attention?
My bf's in a band and he gets a lot of girls liking his stuff on social media and messaging him, some pretty rude things sometimes too.
I've had two incidents of girls messaging me, one early on in our relationship who was someone he'd seen for a bit before me and another more recently, which I actually posted about on here.
Neither had any truth to them, the first I knew straight away as I'd been with him when she claimed she had.

When you say it causes problems though, in what way?
My bf was really open the second time with his phone and reassuring me that he'd not done anything and finding ways to prove that.
Does your bf, get annoyed/angry with you about it? That kind of thing would make me more suspicious.

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt here. Some women are ruthless & stop at nothing to split people up.