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Socialising for the first time in your 40s

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finallyagrownup · 09/07/2017 16:04

Last weekend I went out with my partner and met a few of his friends for drinks in a pub garden.We all had a good time. Because of my past (complicated but not important) I've never been out before apart from with family or work colleagues. Usually to restaurants not pubs. I haven't really got friends I can go out with.
Even though I had a good time I felt a bit like a fish out of water. Another group started a conversation with us and soon they were chatting like old friends
I'm in my mid 40s and feel like I should have experienced all this in my younger days. Everyone else seemed so at ease. I'm hoping that the more I go the easier it'll become. I did enjoy myself, felt like i was doing a "grown up" thing. Just everyone else knew what they were doing apart from me. That sounds so sad. Has anyone else experienced anything similar to this, how was it.

Just to add my partner did ask a few times if I was OK and I said I was fine. When we got back to his place he asked me how it was for me. I told him that I did enjoy it and it was a first for me.

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OnaTrain · 09/07/2017 16:26

I only started socialising in my late 30s it was difficult to begin with and took a long time to feel comfortable with other people.

But what made it more difficult in my situation was the feeling of shame because I felt socially inadequate.

Fast forward a few years and it's much easier now, I stopped worrying about what other people thought of me and decided to 'be myself'

Still not completely comfortable in all social situations but feel so much more confident now that I've learnt some more social skills.

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