Age difference.....

[Doesitgoto11]

Hello lovelies, I've been around a while but this is my first post of my own

So - I was wondering if you have any thoughts on how much of an age gap is 'too' much?

I'm coming up to 40 and have recently reconnected with an old friend who is nearly 20 years older. I love spending time with him, he makes me feel super special and treats me like I'm the most precious person in the world.

But the age difference is still mildly phasing me to be honest - but my last relationship involved EA and gaslighting so I don't know if it's actually a self worth issue of my own given I'm so totally unaccustomed to being treated the way he does.

What do you think - is there such a thing as too big an age difference? Are any of you in relationships with a similar gap? I'd love it if you can help me sort my head out!!

And back on topic - glad you are going for it. My partner is older than me and we are so happy. Life too short to worry about the future.

There is some academic research that suggests the larger the age gap, the greater the chances of the relationship not lasting, and this may be of interest.

I was nearly 9 years older than my wife but it posed no problems and never attracted comment. Well, apart from the odd mate accusing me of cradle snatching in the early days...

Cant predict future but he could easily get dementia or alzheimers in his late 70s,
You then have all the cate and costs, and you still have 30 years left to go having forked out serious money.

Also different life stages. And hate to say it, a young 60 can be become a very old 72. Plus also prostate problems in their 70s can lead to ED etc so you have to decide out how you would really feel about mayve having a sexless marriage in your 50's

I get why a 60 year old man wants a 40 year old woman but i just dont and never get the reverse. Your life though

Ps i say that whst watching a friend of my mothers marriage. He is 80, she is 62. Azlheimers made him aggressive etc, she is livjng a total nightmare and will have little financial security at the end of it.

Would not be for me; you are 40 so effectively you could be his carer in 20 years time, or sooner, when you should in fact be enjoying your freedom and travel etc; wouldn't look like a happy retirement to me.

I've a similar age gap - but we make each other happy. And after the death of a spouse, MH breakdown, forced termination and PTSD between us, happiness together is all that matters.

Both of us have been through the wringer a bit with our own experiences. We went out for dinner the other night and honestly looked like the most comfortable couple there. We just 'get' each other and it's so easy to spend time together.

I'm thinking life can be short so why the hell not.