Lonely single mumma's.....what do you all do on a saturday evening?

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When it seems everyone has a life but you :(
I love my own company most of the time as my life is so busy and I have 3 dd's that take up lots of my time which I love but.....sometimes just sometimes when the weather is warm and you have been out all day with them then early evening your dc's are out playing and you can smell bbq's and laughter from your neighbourhood, life can feel kinda lonely.
Is it normal to feel a bit sorry for yourself?
I don't have family and I have minimal work friends so I sometimes have no choice than to sit alone alot!
What do all you single mums get up to?

not* (thats the wine ) :)

I am single with no children.

I am often doing things with other people on weekdays, but quite rarely on a Saturday.

Don't let the myth of Saturday being "the big night out" make you feel worse than you would otherwise.

Another single mum. I'm in my 40s and just started teaching myself to hula hoop in the evening! I'd recommend watching Michele McCoy on Youtube for a bit of inspiration!

I'm filling my time on MN and trying (failing) to find something on tv to watch. Just like every other night.

I have been officially single since last week and recently me and DD have been watching films, going shopping and plan to go to France in a few weeks to see some friends.

My Saturday nights are my crafting time. DD is only 9 months so once she's in bed on goes a movie, a huge hot chocolate laced with baileys or Malibu, snacks and my crocheting or sewing. I found I always spent my time once she was was in bed cleaning and doing laundry then watching crappy tv for an hour before I went to bed, so on a Saturday I'm on strike and just do something for me. I don't dread them so much anymore.

I'm a seasoned pro at all this. DS is 12 and I've been single for the past year. When he was younger I was single for a long 5 year stint!
Saturday nights I might watch a movie, do some Pilates, knitting, reading. I do some matched betting and I'm doing an online spanish course so i might do some of that.
Sometimes I might get the firepit out and sit in the garden listening to music and mooching online.
I love a good box set as well.
I'm rarely bored.

Read, watch TV, listen to music, write, chores, meditate, pluck eyebrows, take a walk, go shopping. I left Facebook over 3 years ago. It was the best decision. I don't care what other people are doing. I'm content living my own life. I just try to make myself interesting to me.

If I wanted to go out with a man, I could. There is no shortage of invitations on OLD. I just don't feel like it.

Not single but I organise BBQs, arrange nights out with kids, have friends over for drinks and a takeaway and in turn other friends organise all that too. Single parent friends also come.

Maybe talk to your friends and tell them you'd like to see them more, that it's a bit lonely on Saturday nights. I'm sure they'd love to have you round.

Thanks all for the messages. Im ok most evenings. I think I should stay off facebook where everyone has an amazing life, amazing friends, and amazing husbands.
My friends know Im alone. I really dont want to say as I dont have friends that I can open up to like that. I guess thats the whole point I dont have anyone to invite over. Its horrible really because the reason I have no friends is because for years and years I wouldnt go anywhere as I had low self esteem due to a not so nice family life. I had absolutely no confidence. I met my husband when I had no friends and then had a not so nice marriage. I went back to college /work when my exH left and I have been building my confidence ever since. I have met friends but not ones I can invite over. They have their own friends/lives. I envy people who actually have long standing friendships.

Facebook definitely doesn't help! I've got some great friends too in the day but when their weekends come round and their husbands are home then they can't be arsed. That's a bit hurtful but again there's nothing I can do about it.

I've just started subscribing to Readly which is an app that has thousands of magazines stored digitally - great for flicking through on the iPad. I also listen to the radio, Netflix, read, MN.

Was treating myself to nice food and wine but started piling on the weight so have had to cut back on that.

Totally get you on the friends front op. I am very recently separated but I do enjoy my own company and always have. Yesterday and last night dc were staying at their dads so in the day I caught up on some housework then went out for a really long walk, stopping for coffee on the way and mooched around some shops. In the evening cooked myself a really nice meal then settled down in front of the tv and gave myself a facial and manicure.
Like you I dont have friends that I can spontaneously invite over in the evening as most are busy with kids etc but I did join a couple of groups a year ago and some of us do meet up during the day for coffee at least once a week.
Is there a hobby or group that interests you? Friendships take time to develop so my advice would be to do something for you and see who you meet on the way xx

User the friendship issue is a tough one. I don't really have local friends I can just pop round either. I have some really good friends but they don't live near me. I am seeing someone but that is maybe one night a week.

I have constructed my life around what was best for my dd and my career. I moved to a country town and commute/travel for work. I want d her to have a lovely life which she does. I do too. I participate in the school fetes etc but I don't get to do the school run very often so haven't made the school gate friends.

I have thought about joining the WI (don't laugh) it's not that I need something else to do as my life is crazy and I do a lot of exercise etc but I want to engage more locally.

Is this something you could consider? A local cause or group? X

Single dad here, I don't find it on a Saturday, as I have the kids, and I go to bed with them around 8, but nights where they're with their mum.. Yes, I know this one.

So, I seem after work Monday, Tuesday I go swimming after work with my boss. Wednesday is my overnight with the kids, Thursday I might settle with Netflix, or go out cycling. Friday/Saturday bar one weekend a month is kids, Sunday, I go and see friends.

The weekend she has them, I try and sort the house, garden, one of the 3 cars, go out browsing house clearance/antiques shops, or go visit people.

It can be quite "god, I'm boring compared to some" at times, but... So it goes..

Thanks for the messages. Some great ideas here!
I have been searching different apps. Come across meetup but nothing in my area. I will keep searching tough.
Ruddy your day sounded lovely :)
I dont do the school run as mine get a bus and I work full time so dont get involved with school events so I havent made school gate friends either. Im sorry some of you are struggling on the friendship front but chatting on here makes us feel less alone right?
Im actually thinking about cycling but we dont have bikes so Im hoping to search for second hand. I potter in the garden and clean the car etc but some weekends just feel I need more.
Not sure about anyone else but its so so hard turning up at events alone. I suppose the more you do it the easier it becomes. I sometimes feel when I do with the dc's I notice everyone with friends.

I know user I feel very similar. I'm always friendly with the parents at school events but not proper friendships.

I'm off to the outdoor pool (I live in Oxfordshire) with my dd today which is about 30 mins away, after that it will be cutting the grass and doing the usual chores.

Cycling sounds good. Will you join a club? Or just something to do for you and the kids? I swim to keep healthy which is typical me, anything solo

Look on freecycle, gumtree, scour car boot sales or post an add somewhere for bikes. My ex got one for our dd, it was secondhand but hardly used and it was only £20.
Yep turning up at group on my own was one of the hardest things I ever did but now it is one of the highlights of the week, I think back and cannot believe how nervous I was and had to grit my teeth to open the door but since then my confidence has soared. Do it! A whole new life is out there ready for when you are !

Snap! Now theyre all very friendly (5 years on) and do things with their kids and sometimes I feel sorry for my youngest as we are never invited.
We are used to it now. My youngest will be going into secondary school in a couple of years anyway.
I love swimming too. Enjoy! :) Im thinking just for me and the kids at the moment as its exercise and fun at the same time. Its money too isnt it. Hopefully I will come across something for us all second hand.
We are S Wales. We are going to an event this afternoon close to where we live. I wasnt going to as I feel like I am always highlighting the fact I am alone but I really shouldnt worry about that so plucking up some courage to go it alone haha! I cant believe how much it helps just chatting on here you know.

Thankyou Ruddy, thats inspiring. Well done you! :)
Thankyou, I shall look there and also post actually. 20 pond thats amazing! Hopefully I am that lucky :)

Cash converter places are also good for cheap bikes... Bought DS (5) a "new" one for his birthday, nice black one, chromed wheels, new tyres etc, £10. Got it home, gave it a service, lovely little machine. DD (7.5) has one I bought from Amazon for £80.. Her next one will be second hand. I give them a full service, and that's it. . Due to a dodgy knee, my bike is an electric one.. so I lug the loads for a day out..