Well that's exactly what I've done. H and I split up about two months ago, I'm now three months pregnant and we have a DS 4. H already has a criminal record for common assault and battery against me and there is an ongoing case now for repeat offence. Because of this SS are involved. Now my feelings for H don't just switch off and although I know we can't be together, I still find this all very upsetting what with all the hormones as well I've been upset in the evenings. My neighbours have heard me crying or having heated conversations with H on the phone and have now also contacted SS and put in an "Anonymous complaint" saying they are worried for my DS. My DS is my world, I tried to shield him from as much as I possibly can and try to keep things civil with H when he comes to collect him although that's not been very often but I am not a robot and I can't shield DS from everything that goes on in the world. I have no idea how I'm going to look after DS and keep my job and afford everything financially, pay the mortgage child care etc. Ps SS were about to close the case until the neighbour (Who doesn't like me by the way it has always made that clear) got involved. I've contacted BPAS don't think I can go through with it, I always wanted another child but not like this. I don't know, I feel so low and like everything is impossible. I'm off sick now and have no clue as to my best move. I miss H but he's being so nasty, if I get upset on the phone he says he's going to call the police knowing full well this will go against me with the social services, it's a form of control. He's also said that he'll have to get a more permanent place to stay so he can have his other children visit and he's told me this means that me my son and the new baby will be out on the street as he can't pay the mortgage. What with this pregnancy, my hormones, H being a controlling nasty arsehole social services and a stressful job I'm just not coping 