My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now and everything seems great apart from one niggle I have. He doesn't seem keen to meet or spend anytime getting to know the people that are important to me.
I have met his friends but he doesn't have any interest in meeting mine. I invited him out to meet a group of my friends at a pub one evening for by cousins partners birthday. He flaked at the last minute and said he was going out with the guys instead.
It turns out we ended up going to the same pub. I said hi to all his friends as I walked in and went outside to meet mine. He didn't come out once during the evening to say hi or meet any of them. Only when his friends left hours later at the end of the night he eventually came and sat with us for 10 minutes before the pub shut.
I found it embarrassing as all my friends were asking why he wasn't coming over to introduce himself or at least say hello. At the end of the night when we walked home I mentioned I was upset about it and thought he could have at least popped outside to say hello seeing as everyone knew he was there. He admitted that he doesn't really have any interest in getting to know them and it is me he is dating not them. He isn't a shy person so it's nothing to do with feeling nervous. I think he's just being selfish.
AIBU to expect him to make an effort?
I have always taken every opportunity and want to get to know the people in his life and it really upsets me that the favour isn't returned.