Would you go on a date?

[Cherryblossom200]

Hi everyone,

Fairly new to online dating, I have a little girl so I'm being quite careful and speaking to portential dates on the phone before.

I had a chat with a guy yesterday who I initially quite liked. But I'm a little worried, he seems to be very caught up with work and only 6 months out of a relationship with a girl - apparently it was a 'mutual' decision (I never know what to think about that one!) and they weren't out for about 2 and a half years. Based on my own experience I wasn't ready to date after 6 months, so I'm not sure if I really bother meeting this guy. Part of me feels it's a waste of time? But then I think I'll be discounting a load of people because they are newly out of relationships. I've been someone's rebounds many years ago and I don't want to go down that road again...

cherry I strongly suggest you join the Dating thread. Lots of people going through the same things.

Dating 6 months after the end of a 2.5 year relationship would seem perfectly fine to most people I think.

It depends, if it was 2.5 years but the last 6 months of that was just staying together because no one knew how to end it or if the end came about more unexpectedly.

Break ups can be mutual and therefore easier to move on. It's not a red flag imo but I think meeting someone it might be easier to tell but also there are so many other things that can add or take away from attraction and clicking when you meet in person like mannerisms or vibes. One date doesn't mean you have to meet again.

Thanks! I hope wasn't aware of the dating thread, I'll join up! He messaged me today so I think I'll give him a chance. Just so hard when you look at the past and assume it'll be the same again.

You may wish to rethink giving out your phone number, I always recommend that people set up non identifying email and Skype accounts when online dating.

I also recommend that making sure that you have the persons full name before meeting, a quick internet search helps to check that they are who they say they are and that that they have not been in the news or prosecuted for any risky behaviours. Just good online dating hygiene.

Make sure that where you meet is a public place with an 'escape' route should it be needed.

Have a friend that you can 'check in' with before and after date, for personal safety reasons. A code text that can be text to him or her if you need them to call you so that you can cut short your date should you need to.

Six months ok but if your instinct says it is not right trust yourself!

Thanks everyone!

I think 6 months is ok, if you decide to meet just pick public places, don't forget about safety. Here is the list of scammers www.antiarnaques.org/en/liste_noire-femmes_russes_ukrainiennes_europe_est , might be useful for someone. Good luck and take care!

Awww thanks 😊 So kind of you all!