DH not sure what he wants

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DH of 3 years told me two days ago he's not sure he wants to be with me anymore and we will have to see how things go. There was no build up to this and there were not any warning signs.
We have 2 young DDs together and both work shifts so sometimes go a few days without spending much time together but we've always managed.
I'm absolutely devastated and not sure what to do next.
We live in a council flat in a joint tenancy and I could support myself and DDs financially if it came to it. Am I a mug to be waiting around for him to decide what happens next?

If you like his family and want to go on the holiday, then go.

Tell him that you are doing this because one last trip en famille will be nice, but you expect him to have arranged where he will be staying whilst he works out where he wants so that he can move out immediately in your return. Explain that it needs to be somewhere where he can have the DC two night a week and EOW. And that this need not be the end of the marriage, but you'll need to think about it, as there is no future with someone uncommitted.

If you don't want to go, tell that you'll be ringing his family and explaining why, and then do it.

Spend the week thinking through what you really want, and working out where your boundaries and bottom line are.

Not talking screams OW. But the most important thing is: do you want to be married to him? do you want to do all the childcare? how supportive are your family? Sort that lot out before you go digging around.

DDs are little, 1 and 2. Yes I still love him I thought everything was fine between us u till he brought this up! I hadn't considered mental health issues I may broach that topic and see. He is due home soon from work I have packed him a bag with a few days worth of clothes and he can go somewhere else until i can think straight. Thank god my beautiful DDs are too young to understand

My family are far away but I have a very close network of friends and we are each others family so I would receive great support from them, we have a child minder so child care wouldn't necessarily be an issue

That's all really reassuring news. Gives you more options and, short term, makes it easier for you to think.