I'm feeling really upset atm. I appreciate I'm probably overreacting so please be gentle with me.
I've just found out dh has been lying to me. He told me about an event one of my friends is doing and how he was thinking of doing it too. I asked how I knew she was doing this event (it's a charity thing, she said she didn't really want to go round going on about it so she's just put a link on her Facebook account and that's it). Dh looked shifty and mumbled that he couldn't remember how he heard about it. I asked him if he was db friends with her and he just said 'yeah, I must be.'
I've checked and he isn't fb friends with her and her account is private so he couldn't have just been nosing and found it. The only way he could have seen it is by looking on my db account. Which means he's been going through my phone.
I have absolutely nothing to hide from dh. If he said he wanted to use my phone I would have no problem at all with it. I have fb app and MN app on my phone so once you unlock my phon you're free to go through them.
I can't explain how violated I feel by this. I have never done anything to suggest I need 'keeping track of' and I don't feel any need to look through dh's things. I haven't told him yet that I know the only way he'd know about this yet. He's a really clever bloke and I've always said to him that I have to trust him as I know he'd never slip up if he was having an affair or something.
I just feel something big has just shifted in our relationship and I don't know how to put it back. Please help and make me feel better 