bit of advice!

[RebeccaLeigh23]

Hello ladies any help will be very much appreciated!!
I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and lately everything seems to be going wrong . over the last 3 months he has constantly been talking about other girls, complaining about my weight saying I don't deserve him he is 10 times better than I am, I am a rubbish cook, bad housewife, bad mum, we are arguing constantly so I told him if he is not happy just leave but the the thing that is really getting to me is he says well you have to throw me out in front of the kids so you look like the bad parent. I cant do that. he does nothing doesn't help with anything at all and I just don't know what to do anymore. we don't talk anymore just argue and yes I have put on a bit of weight since we first met but does that mean I have to get treated with constant put downs and upset I'm crying almost everyday just don't know what to do.... sorry had to vent my frustration

What a fucking pig he is

What a horrible man. So he clearly wants out of the relationship but instead of manning up and leaving, he wants you to look like the bad one.
How old are you kids?
I would take him at his word and throw him out in front of the kids then. I know you won't want them seeing that but, in the long run, they are being damaged by his behaviour.
Pack his things and get rid of him.

my thoughts exactly how can he sit there and treat someone like that

Throw him out. Show the kids what a strong independent woman looks like.

If that's what he's after, he'll no doubt start goading you in front of the kids.

If he won't leave, can you and the kids leave? How are the finances - do you work? No-one should have to live with that level of verbal abuse - he sounds awful. And life really is too short. Life without him has to be better - and yes, if it comes to it and you have to kick him out then just do it.

I suggest you pack your kids off to school/nursery/a relative, then change the locks and put his stuff outside. Job done. Who owns/rents your property?

do you know when you past the point of caring the constant shouting at eachother I refuse to argue with him in front of the kids its not worth it they don't deserve it. to the earlier post my children's ages are 6,5 & 3 they can see I am upset. his family all laugh along when he says these horrible things to me and I just feel alone in the whole situation

its my property I rent it my faults exactly spoke to my dad and he is willing to come change locks for me so next time his out ill get my dad up to do that

my thoughts exactly I meant not faults

Good for you. Now that we know the house is in your name, you don't have to do it in front of the kids. Pack his stuff when he's out and change the locks. Get this pig out of your life for good.

i am i need to for me and my kids sake. thank you all for your help I just needed to talk without being judged... I live for my kids and want what's best for them

Wave goodbye to the prick

Good luck and keep us posted. Think of what a fab life you will have away from this abusive prick

Tell him to get the fuck out. Your kids will thank you for it.