Do we hate eachother or just new baby stress?

[AmyJessicax26]

ive posted a few threads regarding this and it is just not getting any better ? me and my partner argue all the time which is ridiculous the amount of time that he is at work , initially we thought it was just pregnancy hormones but now DS is 3months old and if anything its all just getting a little worse , everything he does annoys me and starts a argument and of course he is never in the wrong atall , he lends people money to the point that our savings account is practically empty . i dont want to jump to conclusions on a affair as i have no prrof but honestly our sex life was better while i was pregnant and now its practically non exsistant is he that disgusted by me ? or is he just tired and stressed because of DS? apparenlty he wants me to get tested for bipolar and then he told me i was depressed ? im completely stuck on what to do im struggling to leave him because deep down i do still love him and regardless he stops me everytime i try saying 'we can figure this out ' it can be fixed' but is it really supposed to be ? im so sorry for the long post but as you can tell this is an ongoing bad situation and im in desperate need of some advice !!!!

Have you been screened for post partum depression?

Have you been to the GP to chat about how you are feeling at all?

You need to do that first and possibly get onto anti depressants, before you can start to make judgements on the relationship.

Him lending out money from your savings is a no go and needs to stop. I would suggest you keep your money separate from him from now on - that's a quick win and will cut off many arguments. If he starts more arguments because he wants you to give him money, that's a whole other issue.

But yes first stop is GP for a screening. Post partum depression is very common at 3 months out and you need to sort that first, before you try to tackle anything else.

I was like this when I had PND. I was furious with DH all the time and actually thought he was the U not me. After a few weeks on Sertraline I stopped feeling angry and picking rows, our relationship transformed.

Please see your GP. Not everyone feels 'down' with PND I just felt extremely irritable in the early stages.

3 months is such a hard age. Lack of sleep, no time off, not much time for each other. It gets better!

Absolutely what PPs said. I remember Googling "is this PND or is my husband a wanker". My advice would be to get yourself checked and treated if necessary. It's entirely possible that he's the problem, but you'll never know unless you're okay. It's a hard time. Sympathies!

I think there are 2 possibilities. Could be PND or it could be that he is a total jerk. Why does he get to lend out all your savings? Surely it's been saved to get you through MAT leave or whatever?

Please do go chat to a GP if you have one that you trust and chat to them - mention all of this and see what they think as an outsider.

Sending you a hug - sounds tough.

Out of the two possibilities you can not change your husband being a wanker but you can do something if it is pnd.

Get it checked and look after yourself. If it is pnd 'great' you can start treating it. If it's not, he will have to face the fact he actually has to DO something in order for changes to happen and he can't just blame you.

Thankyou everyone feeling really shitty today 😩 2positives and 2negatives and a invalid to add to the mix too 😩

How are you doing a week on?