Domestic abuse

[lilybetsy]

I work as a HCP. I'm educated and intelligent. But I have been in not one, but two relationships during which I and latterly my children endured domestic abuse. That's almost 17 years of my life spent with Cuntish men who emotionally , verbally, financially and at times (Cunt1) physically abused me any my kids
I thought I had dealt with it. I got out (eventually) and we are rebuilding. I am in therapy and working hard to develop boundaries. I keep clear of all men (except my family and old friends) .
I went to an educational event about domestic abuse . I fell apart. (not during the meeting although I did have to leave more than once because the emotions were overwhelming me) After. The anger, the hurt that THIS IS MY LIFE... that I allowed this to happen through shame and fear and shit shit boundaries.

sorry. I don't know what I want for this post. I just want to tell everyone , everyone that no abuse is acceptable NONE AT ALL. And that I will never ever ever allow that to happen to me, or more importantly my poor fucking children, again

Well done you, sorry you had to suffer so much. It's heart breaking the number of posts on here from women who are suffering abuse, some saying well he hasn't hit me yet so it's not so bad.

As you say any ABUSE is wrong and you can't stay with a person that is capable of such horrible behaviours. I guess a lot of women minimise or even become to accept it as their norm in order to be able to actually live it.

OP. It is so hard to leave, because they utterly destroy your sense of self-worth. My sister spent 20 years in an abusive marriage. She didn't even escape in the end - he traded her in for a younger model and pushed her out through the door in just the clothes she stood up in.

Well done for getting out - just hang onto that, and the thought that you are now free.

OP you are incredibly strong and your children are lucky to have a mother that has that strength and is willing to change things and put them first. Good luck with the freedom programme and with the rest of your adventures with your children. There is still so many good things to look forward to.