am i being getting worried for no reason?

[greenfinch]

my dh has suggested we see his parents while he is off on holiday during the week instead of at the weekend as we normally do.(regularly every 2/3 weeks)

they are difficult people to be around so i have never asked them over during the week when husband isn't there and when they have mentioned it in the past it was at a time when my mum was visiting all the time and had put my foot down about that so dh had said in an email to his dad briefly about this and that i needed space during the week, mil then got me to one side and said while i was with dd oh i was going to call in and see you yesterday, i was fuming because she had totally disregarded what had been said, i couldn't do anything but hold my tongue and ignore her.

now i feel on edge that they will mention about coming over during the week again if we make plans to go over and see them in the week. my dh has said that it won't make a president to them coming over to us in the week and that i shouldn't worry, but because they have been so difficult over other things in the past, i think they will mention it and i don't want to be put on the spot.

It's very tricky this, isn't it? My MIL thinks she should be able to come over whenever she wants. It took a lot time and deep offence on her part to understand that I cannot and will play hostess at the drop of a hat. I'm a very busy person!

I understand your anxiety about this - I too try to preempt potential problems with the in laws who are ok but overbearing and very clingy and will push and push and push for more all the time. It can be stressful.

Why don't you just say to DH that you'd rather see his folks at the weekend and that it is a better way of managing their expectations. Then make plans during his holiday week for just you, DH and DD. Afterall, you do need time alone together, don't you?

When you say they are difficult to be around, what do you mean? Because if you don't see eye to eye with them, they probably feel this too and chances are they'll only pop over if your dh is there anyway.

Or maybe not! I know pil can be a right mare sometimes.