My husband and I have been together since we are teenagers and now married ten years with one child, two years old. He has always been quite a negative person but has got worse over the years. He hasn't got a good word to say about anyone. He doesn't like my friends or family and tries to cause arguments each time I arrange o meet them, to put a dampener on my plans. When I had my dc we agreed I would go back to work part time and a less senior role, he now constantly throws it in my face that I earn less than him. Tonight he has slapped me round the face and called me a fucking inbred because our washing machine broke and leaked water after I put it on. I do all the house work, he literally goes to work and that's it, doesn't lift a finger, ive nagged for a new machine for moths but he wouldn't buy one, despite having significant savings he won't touch. He has been aggressive before but always blames me and occcasionaly yes I have retaliated, ashamed of that. I have no money. We have amortgage on our house and over 100k of equity. He says the house is all his though! I don't know what to do. I can move in with my mum for a while to save up for a deposit on a rented place but dread the fall out of moving out. He says he'd rather burn the house down than give me half. He also says he'd take my daughter but can't see this would be possible for him due to his work (.thank god) I married for life, really meant my vows, cannot believe this sorry situation I am in. He is a different man to the one I married 🙁