What would you do?

[Cherryblossom200]

Looking for a bit of advice really. I'm a single parent with one little girl. Yesterday I attended a meeting and there was a gorgeous guy there, I definitely felt a connection of some sort and would have liked to chat to him properly but I couldn't. Basically I run the meet so it would be completely unprofessional for me to approach the guy. He contacted me today to get some information for some work he is doing and left me his number so I could get In touch with him if I needed any further details.

Part of me wants to text him but I feel it's unprofessional, I love my job and don't want to jeopardise it in anyway. Btw he doesn't work for my company.

I'm sure if he was interested he would have checked out my Facebook ( that's how most people get info!) there is a photo of me and my daughter on there so he may assume I'm with someone 🤔 So he may not want to approach.

I think if he was as interested he would approach me regardless?

I'm going to send him a follow up message towards the end of the week 😬 It makes sense for me to do it anyway so wouldn't feel strange. I'll let you know how it goes...

Good luck, ball's in your court.

Give it a day or so & then email

Try putting his email address in the search bar. If it's the same email he signed upto Facebook with it should show you his profile.

Ok 😁 Thanks so much guys!!! I think I'll wait until the end of the week or start of next week - what should I say?! Should I be more friendly or just polite and professional again?

Ummmm whilst still testing the waters I'd go combination 'Hello, how's your week been? Just following up to...'

Gives him the opportunity to start conversation with you but without forcing / making him question the email (should he have a GF)

Ok great thanks!

Update!

So I was going to send him a follow up email tomorrow probably. But he beat me to it, he called me today! I was a bit surprised to be honest. He basically was chasing a project but I found out he actually has a lot of the details he needed 🤔 So I have a little inkling it may of been just to speak to me. He seemed very friendly and we ended up talking very quickly about non-work stuff. He knows I'm single because he asked why I moved to my new area.

But, I think I've been turned off. He has a child with another woman, he left her when the baby was 8 months old and 'moved on' (his words) quickly and is with his current partner whom he has two children with. He seemed very friendly and a bit flirty, he said he would attend another meeting again. I asked why because it wasn't relevant to him, and he just said he enjoyed them (they are boring!)

I have a feeling this is a guy who gets bored quickly and moves from woman to woman. But I could be wrong. I'm just a bit shocked because he didn't seem that sort of guy on first impression.

Do you think he may be interested or is this all in my head?

He may well be interested but not sure why you would be now. He has a partner and two kids and left another partner and baby. Weird info to share with a relative stranger!!! Not exactly alluring.

No I agree completely and I have absolutely no interest in going out with him. The conversation just ended up that way because he asked why I moved area. So I explained it because I'm no longer with my daughters father ( she is only a toddler) hence why he then told me about his story.

Don't worry I'm not a home wrecker. As I said the whole thing turned me off

Sorry didn't mean to have a go at you. He's the creep!

Yeah I know. Our meeting is in the evening and he said he would be rather at the meeting then tucking in his kids at night 🤔 I love putting my daughter to bed...I hate the fact my job sometimes takes me away from that.

What a shame , seems like you've dodged a bullet though.

Next !!!

Yes I know. I really want to meet someone genuine. But I'm finding there are sooo many dodgy men out there, either womanisers, have mental health issues, not over their ex. The list goes on. I honestly don't know how anyone ever meets anyone who is vaguely normal 😆

Oh man, I've been watching this thread hoping for another green eyed gardener scenario. He sounds like a twat and no happy ending for over invested mumsnetters

It's fine :) I'm only starting out again in dating, I'm sure I will hit a lot more bumps along the road!

It's fine :) I'm only starting out again in dating, I'm sure I will hit a lot more bumps along the road!

What a prick, he'd rather be at a meeting than tucking his kids into bed?

Yep...I didn't know how to respond to that one too be honest.

Why do you care if he's interested?

He has a partner with whom he has two children with.

Over

Because I want to steal him from his children and partner. Really I do.

You asked the question OP.

I asked purely because I thought maybe it was just in my head and I that actually jumping to all the wrong conclusions. NOT because I want to be with him. Not everyone is a relationship breaker for christs sake.

Look Op you said "I think I've been turned off" and then asked "do you think he's interested or is it in my head".

So finding out he's in a relationship with two children wasn't a deal breaker was it.

Anyway, it would seem you've seen sense this time

I think that's a bit unfair. Op was just mulling it all over and expressing slight disappointment. No need to paint her as the scarlet woman