How long did it take ?

[Giraffey1]

How long did it take for you to finally sell up if you were in a jointly owned property once you'd decided to split up? I'm separating from my H and we seem to have a different view on timescales.

I'm the one who has instigated the split so I don't want to be unreasonable. But I do want to be able to move on and see some light at the end this miserable dark tunnel.

I told him towards the end of March things were over. He's talking about not putting the house on the market until the spring next year. I feel like we should be able to do so in the early autumn at the very least. Am I being unreasonable? Or is he?

I'd genuinely welcome your thoughts and own experience. Thank you!

First step is to agree finances, once that is decided you can take action, if trust is low then parties might want to get the agreement in a consent order as part of the divorce. I would suggest the finances should at least be drawn up by a solicitor so there is no room for misunderstandings.

I put our house on the market and thought we could agree finances via mediation..ex was totally unreasonable so sale had to be pulled and we are heading to court.There was no benefit in having all the equity sitting in a solicitors account for months whilst ex behaved unreasonably.I would have had to use equity to rent which would have suited ex as he could afford to get a mortgage.

Have you filed for divorce?
Spring is usually viewed as a good time to move but it really depends on where you live as South East isn't affected so much by these factors.
Your ex may be hoping to have Xmas together or stalling to see if you change your mind.

We have agreed to sell the house and split 50-50 (though it's a damned sight more than he deserves). No formal divorce proceedings as yet, my plan is to get this stage done and then get a solicitor to draw up a separation agreement so there's no financial come back on either side.

I'm sorry things aren't going smoothly for you, the court wrangling must be horrid. I'm hoping we can avoid this: So far, apart from the initial shock and understandable hurt on his part, things have been largely amicable. I am not keen on waiting until the spring because H is notoriously slow at EVERYTHING and I can see the whole thing just dragging on and on because he can't get his act together.

Am I in cloud cuckoo land thinking I can justifiabll persuade him to get the house on the market and have it more or less sold by Christmas?

My case ended up in court too as we couldn't agree on the finances. The divorce was messy. Then the house took a year and a half to sell after that!

Why don't you get the ball rolling by getting the house valued by a few agents?

Also think about wider issues like the state of the market. I wanted to delay our divorce and selling of property as we hadn't owned it all that long. Ex was in a hurry because he was desperate to set up a new life with ow so I acquiesced. If we'd held off even 12 months and rented it out we're have had another 100k to split between us. Depends on how amicable your split is but bear it in mind.

Market where we are is healthy, properties few and far between, and the house is in a lovely location. So it should sell ok. It's just that I'm not keen on losing another year of my life living with someone I don't love and often don't even like. But maybe I'll have to temper my expectations.

If you have no intention of going back then I think you should push to sell the house this year. I completely agree, there's no point waiting until next year if you can.
When my previous marriage broke down it took 10 months from leaving him to completing on the sale of the house. All other money had been separated months before the house sold.

My situation slightly different as not married. I told my ex 3 months ago it was over and he agreed to put the house on the market straight away.
Financially this was a bad idea as we have an early repayment charge with our mortgage but there is NO way we could have carried on living together any longer.
He refused to move out unless I took his name off the mortgage but this wasn't an option.
As soon as we accepted an offer on the house, he moved out. So within the space of about 4/5 weeks the house was under offer and he had moved out.
I did not want to prolong the agony and need to move on ASAP.