Help me - why am I always dumped?

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I don't have a problem attracting men but I always get dumped. I'm not sure why it is but it's really becoming a problem.

It's just happened again. It's not always after a few dates either - it can be years, months or weeks.

I don't think I'm being dramatic because other people have commented too.

What could it be?

What happens in the lead up to the end of the relationship? Are things always fine from your point of view and it's a complete surprise?

I've never ended a relationship, have always been the dumpee- if I'm honest with myself the relationships have been rocky and the other person is the one who is brave enough to call an end to proceedings.

It always seems like the other person is pulling back and that's sort of when my gut knows. My friends often tell me I'm being stupid when it happens but I'm not usually.

Don't mean to sound harsh but could you be coming across as needy or putting too much pressure on your relationships?

Possibly - I have a tendency to fall for guys too easily

Have you ever been the one to initiate a breakup?

Maybe you are coming on a bit strong. I think the key to a healthy relationship is maintaining your own space and interests and not rushing things

Every person you have ever dated has been a good match for you? Really? Really?

That simply cannot be true.

Well, unless you are mainly into the idea of just having a partner, so who he is or what he's like doesn't matter much.

Surely the problem is that you fail to recognise that it isn't a good match and so it is always the other person who calls time.

Look back on those relationships and think "When should I have realised that he wasn't the one for me?"

This is different to wondering when you should have realised he was realising you weren't the one for him.

Are you over complicating things? Men are really basic in their needs. If they've eaten & have regular satisfying sex they're generally happy.

Sometimes I think it's simply a case of not being compatible, be it something that becomes apparent in weeks, months, or years. One thing that strikes me though, is if you're dating men that are just as relationship-minded as you are? If one party is looking for a serious, long-term thing and the other is looking for something a bit more transient, then maybe that's not the person for you.

So much bollocks naze and so insulting to men actually. They can be with any old person who sucks their cock and makes them steak and they will be happy. Not so much.

TheNaze I know you are a fellow man, but really? Disappointed in you for that one.

If they've eaten & have regular satisfying sex they're generally happy.

You are really that easy?

It must be frustrating, OP. Shame you can't ask for an exit interview to get some feedback. Have there really been no problems at all in the lead up?

If they've eaten & have regular satisfying sex they're generally happy.

Generally I find things like love, trust and respect are kind of important too...

A full belly and a happy cock? Wow.

Suddenly feeling v grateful indeed for my intellectually and emotionally rich dp!

Sorry for derailing op. Sounds like you're picking guys like TheNaze who are not right for you x

Naze, men are definitely more complicated and much more needy than you portray.

They want respect, attention, support, intellectual equal, time with friends and time for hobbies.

I've found men have quite high demands of their female partners especially in long relationships.

Naze, men are definitely more complicated and much more needy than you portray.

I think/hope he was just being a bit controversial but none the less empty balls and a full belly play a part in being happy.

That said I don't have to rely on anyone else to cook for me.......

You can only be yourself and the right person will come along eventually. Some women have to kiss a lot of frogs until such time. I really hate all the 'advice' out there along lines of hmm are you too needy? desperate? Complicated? Keen? Overbearing? Etc.

As if women should play games contorting themselves into something they're not, forever 2nd guess themselves, as if there's a way to be that will get you The Man. It's not even as if all men are the same is it.

Maybe take a break from relationships for a little while. Get to know the next man as a friend first, do the dating and courtship first no need to rush into "we are a couple now". Don't put all eggs in one basket either until it's made clear you are exclusive. I still think youre in frog kissing stage tho, just one of those things. & there's never any guarantess of lasting relationship anyway. Do bail out quickly if you know someone isn't for you.