when is it the end?

[curlymom]

Pretty obvious to most but after a lot of thinking....when did you know your marriage was over?

When he started speaking to my ds in the vile way he spoke to me. That was the final straw after 20 years of me being treated like shit.

Thanks for the replies just need to consider timing

I clearly remember standing in a fairground with my 3 small DC on a sunny Sunday and they were having a great time on the bouncy castle. XH was in bed massively hungover after biting and raping me after an all day bender on the Saturday. I had a moment of clarity that I would be dead within the year if I didn't go, either by his hand or my own, and that would mean never watching my kids laughing on a bouncy castle.

It makes me so upset just thinking how rock bottom I got

When he ignored me crying when I was grieving for my grandmother. When he phoned me for progress waking up and down a road pawning jewellery when he had money and was also sticking hundreds of pounds of shit up his now.

Two years after then after a few attempts I left. I had met someone and it gave me the courage and a little bit of confidence to leave and stay away when I have had so much shit and abuse

We've had a tough relationship throughout but I knew it was over when I cringed every time he came near me. If he kept his distance I was fine but even holding hands or a kiss would make me squirm.

I resent him and am finally in the process of starting divorce proceedings as I can't carry on anymore. Good luck whatever happens

For me it was when he went away for a week and life was SO MUCH BETTER. He was visiting a woman who I suspected was going to have sex with him, but I was so happy and free with him gone that I did nt give a shit.

I did set up counselling after he got back but honestly it was just so obvious that I (and our ds) were happier without him around.