Would you date someone who was in therapy?

[Therapyornot]

I've reconnected with an old school friend. Fancied them like mad back in the day! So was thrilled when they asked me on a date.

It's been 6 months now. And has been a bit rocky. I'm just looking for something steady but casual/ see where things go whereas they seem to be looking for a serious relationship.

They've recently revealed that they're in therapy. For unresolved relationship issues to do with an ex and relationship issues with parents.

Would this put you off dating someone? Does this mean they're troubled and the relationship is going to be more difficult than someone who doesn't need therapy?

AIBU to be be put off by this?

You could also take it as a positive sign that they are willing to face-up-to and talk about their problems in a constructive way.

Better than someone who pretends everything is fine whilst simmering under the surface.

Just be careful you don't just fancy the teenage version embedded in your mind: are they a person, now, you want to be with?

It wouldn't put me off - his issues don't sound that serious & he's more likely to be more self-aware than someone not in therapy.

Personally I'm about to start online dating & im also about to start psychological therapy for bpd traits. I also see a psychiatrist 3 monthly for depression & psychosis. I take lots of meds. I won't be telling any prospective partner too soon as I seem quite well & stable currently - I'd rather they got to know me first.
If you like this man, find him attractive & could fall for him then don't let the therapy thing put you off. You say you only want to keep it casual anyway so it shouldn't matter.

The therapy wouldn't bother me because as travelling says it means they are trying to sort their issues. The fact that you seem to want different things from the relationship would bother me however. I would say if you are considering staying with them then you need to sit down and discuss what you both want and make sure you are both on the same page and happy with where things are/the speed they move at.

When he is straight then is the time to date. Let him sort his issues out. They are not your problem but his and when he has resolved them then you can build from a solid foundation.

I'd see it as a huge positive! They're willing to tackle something that sadly too many people avoid, and then go crashing through life hurting people.

Why would dealing with your issues be a bad thing? Anyway, why would you continue a relationship where six moths in its rocky and you want different things. Interesting that you think being in therapy is a line, may I suggest .... ahhh forget it, you can't break up with yourself can you.

On one hand it's a healthy sign that they are dealing with their issues, on the other I'd approach v cautiously; people having therapy may not be ready for a relationship. It may be prudent to wait until the therapy is done, and revisit the possibility when they have worked through their problems, your sanity is at risk if you dive right into the midst of someone trying to resolve psychological issues.

I speak from experience.

When you say it's been a bit rocky, what do you mean?